Right now I’m watching three: “The Singles Project,” “Married at First Sight,” and ‘”Dating Naked.”
After appearing on several episodes of the Style Network’s “Jerseylicious” I learned that reality TV shows aren’t really reality.
Now I must admit that I knew going in that it wasn’t 100% reality but I was amazed to learn how much of these shows are scripted and guided by the the writers, producers and directors of the show.
You see, reality TV is a lot like professional wrestling. There are human beings and they’re doing things “live” but almost everything else is designed and made for TV.
So, why a I sharing this with you?
Because last night I saw something that made me want to jump up and throw something at the screen.
One of the “characters” on TSP looks into the camera and says’, “I believe that when you find true love you will feel butterflies and fireworks.”
And I wanted to yell thru the screen and say “NO, you dumb a**, love is not a picnic on the 4th of July”
And it’s something I hear all the time (in one of the following ways)…
“I knew instantly b/c there was no chemistry”
“I wasn’t instantly attracted”
“His teeth were crooked”
[NOTE***in every case the "EX" with the amazing chemistry/attraction turned out to be a douche bag who's no longer around]
The reason I find this so upsetting is b/c believing love is supposed to show up with fireworks, chemistry and butterflies is one of the reasons you continue to struggle in your love life.
Now if you’re in your early to mid twenties, that’s OK, part of the journey is being able to figure out this out. To learn that real, true and everlasting love has nothing to do with butterflies and fireworks.
to find true love one of two things is going to happen…
2) you’ll keep getting involved with the fireworks & butterflies guys and you’ll continue to wonder why it never turns into the love you really want..and deserve.
I believe that one of the biggest reasons you’re struggling in your pursuit of love is that you really don’t understand what true love is and as a result you’re looking for it in all the wrong places.
And I can relate, I did that for years. Until I learned the hard way.
So, if you think true love is based on an initial feeling of fireworks and butterflies I invite you to take some serious Mirror Time to get clear on what love really is.
In fact, In invite you to come up with your own definition of what love is. Because once you KNOW what love is, it’ll be much easier for you to find it and recognize it when it shows up (and to make sure you give it a chance to grow when there is no initial butterflies/fireworks.
Because butterflies, fly away and fireworks fade away but LOVE never dies, it only gets better with time!
Be on the look for it
Hope this helps.