It’s Joe. Yesterday was Father’s day and I wish I could say I had an amazing day with Natalie & the boys….but I didn’t.
If I had to be completely honest I would say it was a pretty crappy day. And when it came time to go to bed I was glad it was over.
Now out of respect to my family members I won’t go into the details of what made it a crappy day but I can tell you this, it wasn’t due to Natalie and she did everything she could to try and make it a nice day for me
So why am I sharing this?
Because here at GPSforLove.com I try to be as honest and transparent as possible.
Several years ago a day like yesterday would have put me in a really bad place and because of my need to control I would have tried to force things.
I would have done whatever I could to control the situation so that I could get my way.
Just like you in your love life, right?
You see, you can force the issue, you can argue, put demands on others and try to manipulate them so you get your way. And even if you do you’re not going to be really happy and either is the other person. Because when you force someone into doing something that they don’t want to it very rarely makes them happy.
Your need to control is due to two things
1) Your need to be right
2) Your fear of not getting the result (love) you want
Whenever someone you love isn’t doing what you think they should be doing you try to force them to do it (or see it) your way so you can get the results/experience you want
But the problem is that trying to control others very rarely leads to the LONG TERM result you.
Oh, you may get your way for a lil while, but ultiamtely you’ll lose.
One of the thongs I learned a long time ago is that control is an illusion and the only thing you really have control over is your thoughts and actions.
So today I invite you to take some Mirror Time and look at your desire to “control”.
How does it play out in your life? How does it affect your love life? Does it cause you to make poor and unhealthy choices? Or does it cause you to make others wrong which ultimately pushes them away?
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