“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results!”
I was thinking about what I was going to write about today when all of a sudden I started thinking about a woman I know who has been struggling in her love life for years.
When you talk to this women she sounds like she’s got it all together. She comes across as smart, articulate, strong and she’s very attractive.
And when you ask her what she’s looking for in her love life, she says all the right things.
The problem is if you were to observe the way she makes choices and decisions in her love life….it’s all wrong.
She has the same pattern. She meets a guy, there’s is a great attraction and chemistry and for a few weeks or months she is convinced he is “The One.”
And then, invariably a few weeks or months later the relationship ends and she puts on her victim hat.
This scenario has been going on for over two decades.
If you talk to this women you would think she is great and any man would be lucky to have her on his arm.
The problem is deep down, she doesn’t really believe she is worthy of a great man and a great relationship.
You see, when you truly believe you deserve love, you make choices and decisions which show that you are worthy.
You don’t make excuses for guys who do not CONSISTENTLY deliver the love you are looking for.
You do not give your precious heart (and other body parts) to a guy who has not earned the right to hold and cherish them. And you do not make choices and decisions which are not in direct alignment with the love you say you want.
When you truly believe you are worthy of a good man and a great relationship…you don’t settle for anything less!
I do not believe in a God/Universe that arbitrarily decides who will find love and who won’t. I don’t believe in a God/Universe that would put a desire in your heart and not make it possible for you to have it.
That would be a sick and cruel God/Universe
“So why Joe do others find love and I continue to struggle”
I believe it’s only due to two things:
1) It’s on its way and you just have to be a lil more patient
2) Deep down you do not believe your worthy of it and as a result you make choices and decisions that work against you in the long run
Now you can give me all of the evidence to support your struggles. You can tell me all about the “boys” and how sh*tty they are and the games they play.
And I won’t disagree with you.
If you’ve been following me and GPS for Love for awhile you know I’ll be the first to tell you that there are a ton of these selfish, immature, emotionally unavailable guys out there.
And I’ll also agree that most of them only want to know you for what is in your pants.
Those are the guys you must stay away from! Those are the guys you cannot even consider having a relationship with, no matter how much you have in common and no matter how great the chemistry appears to be. Because those guys will never be able to give you the love you are looking for.
Want to get a good idea of how worthy you actually believe you are? Want to be able to predict if you are ever going to have the love you say you want?
Take some Mirror Time and do these two things:
#1 Ask yourself “Do I really believe I am worthy of a good man and a great relationship?
#2 Take a good hard look at your love life and the choices and decisions you have been (and are) making.
And see if #1 & #2 match up.
If they do, simply keep doing what you are doing. Put yourself out there and shine your amazing light into the world so that the right MAN can find you.
And if they don’t, realize you’ve got to make some changes. You’ve got to do some things differently, because if you don’t, you’ll keep making the same mistakes and coming up with the same results.
And you deserve better!
After taking your Mirror Time I invite you scroll down to the comments section and share what your Mirror Time has revealed. I also encourage you to let us know how you are going to use today’s blog to help take you one step closer to the relationship you desire..and deserve
Have a Blessed day!