Would You Cancel a First Date

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Today’s vblog is in two parts.

In the first video you will be given a scenario that recently happened to a member of the smarter dating community. She was schedule to go out on a first date with a guy she recently met. And then two days before she was to go out with him her girlfriend called and invited her away for an amazing weekend getaway?

She was torn and ultiamtely she had to make one of three decisions, each of which are revealed in the first video

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Guess which option she chose?

“B”

And Guess what happened?  The guy blew her off and never showed for the date.

I’m not saying she made the wrong decision but her reasoning for NOT canceling was made out of fear and not  from her POWER and that is why I think one of the other  options was a better choice.

To understand why “C” was a better choice watch part two of today’s vblog…NOW

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What would you if this happens to you? Would you cancel the date, postpone or tell your girlfriend you had other commitments?  Scroll down to the bottom and share your comments, questions or feedback

Hope this helps!

Much Love,

Joe

 

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There is a Gift in The Pain

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Have you ever taken the time to consider that all of the pain, heartache and disappointment of the past may actually be a…GIFT?

What if, maybe, just maybe everything The Gift of Painthat has happened (or is happening now) was all universally designed to help prepare you for something even better?

I know it may be hard to wrap your head around that statement, but I promise you that if you can open yourself up to its possibilities things can change dramatically.

Now if you think this is a lot of new age, positive thinking bullsh*t, I can completely understand.

There was a day many years ago where I couldn’t have imagined that the emotional pain I was going thru was all part of some divine plan to prepare me for something even better.

You see, just 28 days before walking down the aisle, my then fiance, revealed something to me that made me realize we were both making a huge mistake. So we decided to call off the wedding.

The emotional pain and embarrassment I felt initially made it very difficult for me to move on. I had given everything I had to make my “ex” happy and to make the relationship work. But my efforts were all for naught (or so I thought) and I wound up feeling angry and depressed.

Bu then one day, I decided to look at the pain I was going thru and see it as a gift.

My mother, a woman of devout faith, always told me “everything happens for a reasonn” and “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.”

And I must admit they always sounded like cliches, things that a mother is supposed to tell her child when they are going though tough times.

But then I looked at these cliches and I looked at they applied to her life.

My mom was a remarkably resilient woman. When she was 41 my dad passed away from cancer leaving her a widow who now how to provide (in all ways) for my sister and me.

And it would have been very easy for my mother to play the role of victim or martyr. To complain about how she good screwed and dealt a bad hand in life.

But she never did.

Instead she met life head on.

And it was her example that helped me when I was going through my own divine storm.

I am sharing this with you today because I want you to understand that although the pain of the past has it’s grip on you, you don’t have to hold on to it.

There is a way past it and though it. And the best way to do that is to see it as a gift. Something that is not happening to you but for you!

And I get it if you think it’s a bunch of B.S.. If you would have told me that right after my wedding was cancelled I would have felt the same way.

But now that I look back. Now that I can see things more clearly I can honestly say, that the pain of the PAST is a gift and I am grateful for it…ALL OF IT.

Why?

Because those painful times were all a part of my journey. They all helped me grow and become a better and stronger me. And I can honestly say that I have the relationship I have today because of my past, not in spite of it.

Going thru all of my sh*t made me realize I had to do some things differently. It made me see that I had to make some major changes in the way I did things.

And I would have never had that realization if I didn’t go thru what I went though.

So today I have a challenge for you.

You see, you now have a decision to make. You can see the past and the pain as something bad that has happened. You can continue to focus on all of the pain that is associated with it. You can continue to come up with all of the reasons and justifications as to why (and how) you you got screwed.

OR….

You can see it as a GIFT. Something that God and the Universe had to make happen to wake you up so that you could learn your lesson(S). To see how strong and powerful you really are and to show you so that you could create the result you really want in your love life.

Now this might not be easy at first. There’s going to be a part of you that’s going to want to hold on to the past. Because when you hold on to the past it keeps you from putting yourself out there and having your heart broken again.

But I promise you that the more you embrace the idea that the pain of the past is a gift, the more you start to OWN it the easier it will be to move on and find the love you really want.

The choice is now yours. what are you going to choose?

Take some time and let us know by sharing your thoughts, comments and questions in the box below.

Hope this helps!

Much Love,
Joe

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The BIG Decision You Must Make In Your Love Life

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Are you tired of giving your all to a relationship? Do you tend to give too much? Do you think if you continue to love a guy he will turn into the man you really want?

In today’s video you will learn about a decision that you MUST make if you are going to create the relationship you really want.

This one decision has the power to turn your love life around today….but only if you make it…and stick to it!

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Does today’s video resonate with you? Do you try too hard? Do you think you have to do something special tom make a guy fall in love with you?

Post your comments, questions and feedback below

Hope This helps!

Much Love,

Joe

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Courageous Love vs. Reckless Love

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Did you know that the WAY you open your heart to a man will greatly predict the success of your future relationship?

Would you like to learn HOW to increase your chances of having a rockin’ relationship while also protecting yourself from getting hurt again?
If so, watch this video …NOW

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After watching today’s video I invite you to take some Mirror Time to see how you’ve been loving….courageously or recklessly.

If you have any questions, comments or feedback  about courageous/reckless make sure to post em below

Hope this helps!

Much Love

Joe

 

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How To Get a Man To Want To Commit To You

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Ever wondered what it would take for a guy to commit the rest of his life to you and only you?

Want to know how to be the woman that causes the right guy to want to spend his life with you?

In this video you will learn the secret to getting a guy to want to commit.

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Do you have a hard time being yourself? Do you think you have to do something or be someone else in order fro a guy to fall in love with you?

Do you try too hard to impress a guy so that he’ll want to be with you?

Scroll down to the comments section and share your thoughts and feelings on today’s vblog and how it will help you in your love life

Much Love,

Joe

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The Quality of Your Love Life is Directly Due To This…

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Have you ever wondered why some women find love and others continue to struggle and go from one crappy, toilet bowl relationship to another?

Is it due to the love they received as a child? is it due to their looks? Or is it simply due to some divine entity in the sky which picks and chooses who finds love and who doesn’t?

In this video you will learn how the above factors may sometimes play a role in your ability to find love but there is ONE THING which greatly influences your ability to find the love you really want more than any other thing.

To find out what this ONE THING watch this video…NOW!

After watching the video I invite you to take some Mirror Time to  see how you’re doing with this “ONE THING” and make sure you post your observations, questions or feedback in the comments section below

Much Love,
Joe
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Are You Too Hard On Yourself?

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Are you your own worst critic? Do you find it easy to pick out your flaws but you have a hard time focusing on your assets?

Did you know that your ability to love & accept yourself is a great indicator of the success of your future relationships?

In this video you will learn how giving yourself permission to be human and accepting your imperfections is an important part of creating a GREAT relationship.

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Being able to love and accept yourself can be as easy as making a decision. Scroll down to the comments section and decide what action or step you must take to love and accept yourself RIGHT NOW…as you are.

Much Love,

Joe

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The Apology You Never Received…But Should Have!

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Below is a repost of one of my most popular blogs when I originally started this blog. It’s the apology letter your ex should have written you…but never did.

Hope it helps!

DEAR____________, 

I am writing to you today to ask for your forgiveness. I now understand how much I hurt you and how much pain I caused you. This is not easy for me to admit because doing so causes me pain. For it was never my intention to hurt you. I am not going to make excuses for my behavior. For one time I am going to step up to the plate and take responsibility for my actions.

I now see that pointing fingers and blaming you was the coward’s way out. I could have communicated like a man, but I took the easy way out, the path of least resistance. And although that path was easy for me, I now see how much it hurt and affected you. And for that I am truly sorry.

I also want to apologize for every time that I did not live up to and honor my commitment with you. I now see that every time I lied, every time I cheated, every time I put you down and blamed you I was doing what was best for me without taking into consideration how it was going to affect you. It was very selfish of me and I’m sorry. Instead of talking to you and communicating how I was feeling I ran away, like a little boy, too afraid to speak the truth.

You deserved to be treated with love and respect and I failed. I am no longer willing to be the victim and blame everyone and everything for my mistakes and shortcomings. I will no longer try to blame and make you wrong for things that were my fault. I now see that I and I alone was responsible for the emotional pain and devastation I have caused you.

But what bothers me the most is that my mistakes have caused you to put up walls and close yourself off to the world. My actions are depriving someone else of the opportunity to know what a beautiful and loving person that you are. The pain I have caused has scarred your heart so bad that you are no longer willing to open up and take the chance on love.

So I am asking you to please put down your walls. I do not deserve the ability and power to take that away from you. I am simply someone who has made some mistakes because I was dealing with my own shortcomings and faults. Unfortunately you became the victim of my problems.

Instead of being a man and dealing with my stuff, I ran from it and even worse, I projected it onto you.

If I could go back in time and erase the things I did which caused you pain, I would in a heartbeat. But I can’t. I can only sit here and do one thing, something I should have done a long time ago; say I was wrong and I am sorry.


In closing I want to say that I understand that you will probably never forget the hurt and pain I have caused you and those close to you. I don’t expect you to. But I hope you will find it in your heart to forgive me, not for me, but for you. For I now see and understand the ramifications of my choices and decisions.

I ask you to forgive me so you can free yourself form the shackles that have imprisoned your heart and kept you from experiencing the love you deserve.

I wish you nothing but life’s blessings.

Sincerely,

 ________________________(Insert Ex’s Name Here:)

I am sorry that you never received this apology and explanation when you deserved it. But now you have it. You are free to move on and leave the past where it deserves to be. The only question is will you?

Much Love,

Joe

 

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Three Biggest First Date Mistakes Women Make

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Have you ever had a first date where you thought everything went great but you never heard from him again. And you were left wondering if there was something you said or did which may have scared the guy away.

In this video you will learn the three biggest first mistakes a woman can make which will scare a guy away.

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Have you ever made any of these mistakes? Are there other mistakes you may have made on a first date which may have scared a guy away?  Do you have any questions about first date etiquette?

Make sure to post your questions, comments and feedback below.

Hope this helps!

Much Love,

Joe

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The Difference Between a Good Man and The Right Man

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One of the most complicated parts of dating is trying to figure out if a guy is worthy of committing your life to. There are so many guys who portray themselves to be something they’re not. And there are even more guys who say they are ready to commit to a relationship with you only to reveal that they’re not.

And this confuses and frustrates you, right?

Well, in today’s video you’ll learn a simple strategy which will help you recognize when a good man is worth committing your life to..and when he’s a just a nice guy who is better suited for someone else.

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Do you have a hard time recognizing the men from the boys? Not sure how to recognize Mr. right when he does come along?

Take a few seconds and scroll down to the comments section and share any questions, observations or feedback you have on today”s vblog

Hope this helps!

Much Love,

Joe

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