Are Your Standards Too High?

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If you’re going to spend the rest of your life with one person it’s vital that you have standards, very high ones. But there is a fine line between having high standards and unrealistic standards.

A Lesson I learned the hard way. In this video you will learn the recognize when you’re being too picky because your standards are too high and unrealistic and when you are being smart and your standards are right where they need to be.

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Have your standards been an obstacle in your love life? Have you been told you’re too picky?
Are your standards too low and you find yourself involved with guys who simply don’t measure up?
Are you confused because you have no idea if your standards are too high or too low?

Scroll down to the comments section and share your thoughts on your standards and how they may or not be working for you in your love life.

I’d love to hear what you think!

Much Love,

Joe

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3 Signs It’s Time To Walk Away

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Have you ever been involved with a guy when your head was telling you to leave but your heart wouldn’t let you because you had faith that things were going to get better?

It’s a common mistake many women make in their love lives and unfortunately their hope and faith rarely pays off.

In this video you will learn how to recognize that it is the right time to walk away from a relationship.

If you want to know when a relationship is worth investing in and when it isn’t…this vblog is a must.

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After watching today’s vblog I invite you to revisit your previous relationships and see how having this information would have made a difference in your love life.

Make sure to share your “Aha’s” and any other questions you have about knowing when to leave a guy or relationship in the comments box below.

Much Love,

Joe

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5 Steps To Getting Better Results In Your Love Life

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When I first started out in creating blogs for GPS for Love it was my intention to be as honest and transparent as possible.

Why?

Because in my journey I had discovered that there Wizrd of OZwere a lot of charlatans out there who would tell you something and who would lead you on (often because they wanted to sell you something) and then, after you pulled back the curtain you would find one of three things…

  1. They were lying
  2. They weren’t telling the whole truth
  3. They were deliberately misrepresenting themselves and what they had to offer.

Sounds like some of the single guys out there, doesn’t it?

Well, I’ve actually come up with a phrase for this charlatan-ism. I call it the Wizard of Oz Syndrome.

If you remember in the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy and the other characters were looking to get to the Wizard so that he could give them the things they were missing. But once they got to his palatial estate they realized that the all-mighty and powerful wizard wasn’t who he portrayed himself to be.

And herein lies the problem. You’re looking for answers but you don’t know where to go and who to trust.

And I get it. I so get it. I have been down that road more times than I would like to admit.

So today I want to share something that I now use when I am am struggling.

And I wish I would have had this knowledge when I was single because it would have saved me a ton of time and it would have saved me from making some really BIG mistakes in my love life.

These are the simple tenets I use (and you can too) when I want to create better results in my life.
(Note*** for those of you who think I have all the answers and my life is perfect, it is not. If you don’t believe me you can talk to Natalie and my boys!)

1) Get Crystal Clear on what the Desired Result is (i.e. Set a Clear Intention)

2) Believe the answers, resources and people you need to help you solve your my problems are already out there and that you will find/attract them

3) Keep your eyes and ears open so that you can recognize them when they show up

4) See if the answer, resource or person feels “right” in your heart/gut

5) Take aligned Action towards your Desired Result and see what happens

You will find that if you follow these five steps the process of creating the desired result becomes much easier and much more enjoyable.

Think about it for a second. The reason you are reading this now is because you want some kind of result in your love life. Right?

Maybe you’re single and your result is you want to find love
or
maybe you’ve been in a relationship for a little while and you’re trying to figure out if he’s “The One”
or
maybe you’ve been in a relationship/marriage for awhile and you’re unhappy and you want to walk away… but you’re afraid to.

I get it. I really do. And that’s why I am sharing these simple steps with you today. Because I promise you…I PROMISE YOU… that it will be so much easier to get the results your heart desires if you follow these five simple steps.

Don’t believe me? Why not try ’em out for yourself. You might be pleasantly surprised by the results.

But before you do that I want you to look at all five of these steps and see where you may have been going wrong in the past?

Were you not crystal clear in your intention?

Were you listening to too many people, believing everyone who had an opinion, insight, suggestion on how to solve your dating and relationship problems?

Were you not listening to your gut and you were forcing things because you were afraid you wouldn’t find the love you really wanted?

or

Were you taking the wrong action? Did you keep investing in guys, relationships and “experts” who you believed were legit only to be disappointed when you pulled back the curtain and found out what the truth really was?

How you can turn your past experience into an expensive learning lesson so that you can go out and create the results you really want in your love life?

Scroll down and let me know.

Hope this helps!

Much Love,
Joe

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The MAN-BRAIN

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Happy Friday!

Normally on Fridays you and the other members of the GPS for Love community receive a video blog which is focused specifically on the struggles you may be what-men-think-248experiencing with men, dating and relationships.

But today I wanted to send you an e-mail which gives you a glimpse behind the curtains of what it takes to make a marriage work.

Each morning Natalie and I have breakfast together before we start our day. With three boys between the ages of seven and twelve the time we have for each other is very limited. So we do our best to make sure we get “Us Time” as much as we can.

It’s also a chance for us to check in with each other so that we can both love and support each other.

Life can sometimes be very challenging and right now there are a lot of things we’re dealing with. And no matter how strong and confident we are in our abilities to handle the stuff that life throws at us the bottom line is that we’re human and we sometimes have our moments.

So this morning as I was sitting talking to Natalie, I could see something was wrong. And as soon as I asked her the magic question…”Are you OK?” the tears started flowing.

And I must admit that the immediate conversation I had in my head wasn’t a good one. Because in those initial first few seconds all I could think about was myself. I had a few things that I wanted to accomplish today and I didn’t have a lot of time to be dealing with her stuff.

Now I’m saying this to let you know that I’m not just another selfish self absorbed “boy” like so many of the guys you may have been involved with in the past.

I’m telling you this because I’m trying to be as honest and transparent as I possibly can.

Yes, for a few brief seconds I was a selfish a**hole and I’m man enough to admit it.

But once I saw the emotional pain my wife was in my “MAN BRAIN” kicked in and told me what to do.

So for the next hour I sat with Natalie and we talked. We worked though the stuff she was dealing with and by the time she was done she felt so much better…and so did I.

And after our conversation I felt so much better about….myself.

Because here is the thing about us “MEN.” What makes us feel really good about ourselves is knowing that we can be there and take care of our women.

That’s one of the biggest things that separates the “MEN” from the “BOYS”.

If I was back in my old selfish “boy” days I would have ranted and raved and said “I don’t have time for this” and I would have walked away to take care of all the those “important” things on my to do list. And in the process of doing that I would have made my wife feel like crap because she couldn’t count on me to be there for her when she needed me.

A real man wants to be there for his women when she needs him because doing so actually makes him feel better about himself and who he is as a MAN.

When I walked away from my conversation with Natalie I felt so good about the decision I made. Not just because she felt better but because I felt better about me!

If you are ever dating a guy and he is showing you that he won’t be there for you when you need him to be I want you to one thing and one thing only….kick his ass to the curb!

Because you deserve better!

You deserve to be with a man who will have your back when you need him to.

There will be lots of times in your relationship where you’ll need to rely on your guy to have your back and if he can’t have it in the beginning of a relationship what makes you think he’ll have it later on?

Hope this helps!

Have a great day!

Much Love,

Joe

P.S. Did today’s blog resonate with you? Do you tend to get involved with guys who don’t have your back when you need them? Do you find it hard to open up to your man and do you deny him the opportunity to be there for you?

If so, scroll down and post your comments, questions and feedback. I want to hear your thoughts.

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How Much Do Looks Matter?

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Looks open up the door to love but the essence of a person, who they are, and how they treat you makes you decide if you should stay with that person”
-Joe Amoia

As you’re reading this I’m with Natalie visiting an orthopedist for her eventual  hip replacement surgery.

She was born with hip dysplasia (her left hip bones were not formed properly) and it’s starting to get to the point where she is too uncomfortable doing normal activities such as sitting or walking for extended periods.looks matter So it’s looking more and more likely that she’s going to have hip replacement surgery.

Oh well, just another speed-bump on the road to life!

And as we are going through the process I wanted to ask you a very simple question…How important are looks to you?

If you were on a blind date and you didn’t feel an initial spark would you immediately write a guy off or would you at least give him some time to win your heart?

Do you tend to go after guys who have a certain type of look and you won’t even consider getting involved with a guy who isn’t your “type”?

The reason I’m asking is because I am constantly hearing from women that they won’t consider going out with a guy because he’s doesn’t look a certain way.

I get it. We all have types. We all have preferences in how we would like our partners/spouses to look. And I’m the first to say that looks do matter.

But the BIG question is…HOW MUCH DO THEY MATTER?

And that is a question that only you can answer.

Your friends and family members may be telling you that looks don’t matter and it’s who the person is on the inside that matters most. But I don’t agree.

Any person who says looks don’t matter is either full of sh*t or Mother Theresa.

How can you have a relationship with someone, play tonsil hockey and do the horizontal mambo on a regular basis if you’re not attracted to his looks on some level?

Right?

So what do you think?

Do you tend to put a lot of emphasis on looks?  What role does physical attraction play in when and how you get involved with a guy?

What is the criteria you use to decide if a guy’s looks are a deal breaker for you?

Scroll down to the comments section and share your thoughts because I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

And if you have any specific questions about the importance of looks in picking a partner, make sure to post em as well.

Hope this helps!

Much Love,
Joe

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How To Tell If a Guy Is Lying

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Have you ever wished you could crawl inside a guy’s brain and understand why he has a hard time telling the truth? Do you wish you had a fool proof B.S. detector which would help you recognize when a guy was telling you the truth and when he was bullsh*tting you?
If so, then today’s video is a must watch because you will learn three simple strategies that you can use to identify when a guy is lying to you.

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Have you ever been in a relationship with a dishonest guy? Were any of these 3 signs present? If so, which one(s)?

How could this video have made a difference if you had it back then? How can you use it to protect yourself from the “boys” who will lie to you in the future?

Scroll down to the comments section and share your thoughts, feedback and questions. I love hearing form you.

Have a Blessed day!

Much Love,

Joe

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Is Chivalry Dead?

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Chivalry is not dead. It’s just that most women started settling                                                for a lot less than they deserve!”        -Anonymous

I was brought up by a very strict Italian father who taught me how to treat others, especially women.

Almost everything I learned about chivalryhow to treat women I learned from my father’s example.

Now I’m not gonna sugar coat things and pretend I’ve been a perfect gentleman and I never did some crappy or irresponsible things to some of the women in my life. I did!

And I take 100% responsibility for my “boyish” actions!

But I learned early in life that if I did something shitty to a woman (or anyone else), the Universe had an interesting way of paying me back for my transgressions.

One of the things I hear all the time from women, is that there are no good men out there (or they’re all taken or gay). And it breaks my heart. Because the truth is there are a lot of good men out there who do know how to treat women.

And many of these guys are just as frustrated as you are because…

  • some women won’t give em the time of day b/c they don’t look like Brad Pitt
  • some women prefer the excitement, challenge and unpredictability of the boys more than the safety, security and inner character of  a MAN
  • they’re not given a fair shot to show what a great MAN they are because they don’t pass the instant chemistry test that so many women hold them to

It’s sad, really sad because there was a time in my life where I was one of those “good guys.”

So why am I sharing this with you?

Because I want to know if you really believe Chivalry is dead.

Now I will agree that there are tons of guys who could care less about being chivalrous to a woman. These are the guys that we have come to refer to as the “boys.” These are the guys who are selfish, emotionally unavailable and who lack integrity.

These are the guys that I recommend you stay far away from if you are looking to have a happy, fulfilling, long lasting relationship.

But there are also a lot of good, solid, and caring MEN out there who do know how to treat women.

But unfortunately many of these guys will never get the chance for a woman to know what great partners they can be because they’re never really given a fair shot.

Now I’m not asking you to date a troll. I’m not saying you should pursue a relationship with a guy that repulses you.

Because to have a successful relationship you must be attracted to a man you are going to be intimate with.

I’m simply asking you to take some Mirror Time and look at your thoughts about men.

Because the funny thing about guys is that the ones who keep showing up in your life are the ones you are unconsciously programmed to attract!

Instead of focusing on how scarce the good guys are, instead of focusing on how selfish and self absorbed the “boys” are and how the only thing they care about is getting laid, I want you to start focusing on finding the one good man who you can give you the love, honor and respect you deserve!

Because once you find that one guy the number of “boys” you’ve come across  no longer matters!

What are your thoughts on men and chivalry?

Scroll down down and let us know. And if you have any other questions about men and chivalry make sure to post em as well. I read ’em all!

Hope this helps!

Much Love
Joe

P.S. I know these blogs might sometimes come across as some unrealistic bullsh*t. But here is an e-mail I received the other day from a woman who made a slight change to the way she looked at guys….

About 3 months ago I learned this lesson you spoke of today and changed my beliefs to this:

  • Men love women who are happy and content.
  • Men are lots of fun to be with when you relax in their company and let them bring out their masculinity

Since then, I have been getting so many dates with men who are awesome. Now instead of going home after a date and crying in my Haagen Dazs lol I go home and look forward to another date.

At first I thought this type of advice was all woo woo bullsh*t but it really is life changing once you get it!

Listen to Joe ladies…. this truly works.

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Having Trouble Finding A Good Man….TRY THIS

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What if you were to learn that there were some very specific reasons why some women succeed in their love lives and others (like you) continue to struggle?

And what if you could learn that one of those biggest reasons was something within your control and something that you could learn how to change?

And by making a simple change you would greatly increase your chances of finding a quality man.

Would that interest you? If so, watch this video now….

There’s a lil Mirror Time exercise at the end of the vblog to help you identify the potential cause of your struggles, so make sure you watch til the very end.

And after you watch the video and do the exercise, scroll down to the comments section and share how today’s vblog is helpful and how you can use it to find the quality man you desire…and deserve!

Enjoy!

Much Love,

Joe

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Why It’s Hard to Make The Right Choices In Your Love Life

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Does your mind lead you to make decisions that your heart often winds up regretting? Do you often find that you make choices which feel good in the moment but which work against bad choicesyou in the long run?

Well, if so, welcome to the world of being human! It’s a character trait that we all suffer from, including me.

You see, as human beings we are wired to try to get our emotional needs met, and when there is something that we want NOW, our logic goes out the window.

This is why you know a guy isn’t the right guy for you and yet you have a hard time letting him go and moving on.

This is why you pursue guys who you know from the very beginning will never be the kind of MAN who can give you the type of relationship you really want.

And this is why you continue to stay in relationships with guys who are not consistently giving you the love, honor and respect you know you deserve.

When it comes to human behavior, especially in the love department, logic goes out the window.

We human beings are emotional creatures and everything we do is based on one thing and one thing only…getting our emotional needs met!

And if we have to violate our values, make excuses as to why it’s OK or come up with a laundry list of rationalizations and justifications as to why it’s OK to stay in a Toilet Bowl Relationship (the crappy one), we’re going to do what we need to do in order to get those emotional needs met….EVERYTIME!

So today, I have a little assignment for you. A ‘lil Mirror Time exercise to help you tame this hedonistic, irrational and often unhealthy part of your brain.

I want you to look at your prior relationships, especially the one where you shake your head and say “What was I thinking? And I want you to revisit that relationship for a few minutes. And then I want you to ask yourself this one question….”Why did I stay as long as I did?”

And then I want you to come over and scroll down to the comments section and share what you have learned, because your answer to this question will be the catalyst to help you grow so that you don’t make the same mistake…again.

Hope this helps!

Much Love,
Joe

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How To Make a Relationship Last

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Ever wondered why some relationships stand the test of time and yours don’t?

Would you like to learn three things you can do to increase your chances of having a realtionship that starts off good and gets better with the passing of time?

If so, I invite you to watch this video…

After you watch today’s video I invite you take some Mirror Time to see if any of the three steps were missing in your previous realtionship(s) and how you can use these three steps to help you create the realtionship you really want…one that’s gonna last!

Much Love,

Joe

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