Have you ever taken the time to consider that all of the pain, heartache and disappointment of the past may actually be a…GIFT?
What if, maybe, just maybe everything that has happened (or is happening now) was all universally designed to help prepare you for something even better?
I know it may be hard to wrap your head around that statement, but I promise you that if you can open yourself up to its possibilities things can change dramatically.
Now if you think this is a lot of new age, positive thinking bullsh*t, I can completely understand.
There was a day many years ago where I couldn’t have imagined that the emotional pain I was going thru was all part of some divine plan to prepare me for something even better.
You see, just 28 days before walking down the aisle, my then fiance, revealed something to me that made me realize we were both making a huge mistake. So we decided to call off the wedding.
The emotional pain and embarrassment I felt initially made it very difficult for me to move on. I had given everything I had to make my “ex” happy and to make the relationship work. But my efforts were all for naught (or so I thought) and I wound up feeling angry and depressed.
Bu then one day, I decided to look at the pain I was going thru and see it as a gift.
My mother, a woman of devout faith, always told me “everything happens for a reasonn” and “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle.”
And I must admit they always sounded like cliches, things that a mother is supposed to tell her child when they are going though tough times.
But then I looked at these cliches and I looked at they applied to her life.
My mom was a remarkably resilient woman. When she was 41 my dad passed away from cancer leaving her a widow who now how to provide (in all ways) for my sister and me.
And it would have been very easy for my mother to play the role of victim or martyr. To complain about how she good screwed and dealt a bad hand in life.
But she never did.
Instead she met life head on.
And it was her example that helped me when I was going through my own divine storm.
I am sharing this with you today because I want you to understand that although the pain of the past has it’s grip on you, you don’t have to hold on to it.
There is a way past it and though it. And the best way to do that is to see it as a gift. Something that is not happening to you but for you!
And I get it if you think it’s a bunch of B.S.. If you would have told me that right after my wedding was cancelled I would have felt the same way.
But now that I look back. Now that I can see things more clearly I can honestly say, that the pain of the PAST is a gift and I am grateful for it…ALL OF IT.
Because those painful times were all a part of my journey. They all helped me grow and become a better and stronger me. And I can honestly say that I have the relationship I have today because of my past, not in spite of it.
Going thru all of my sh*t made me realize I had to do some things differently. It made me see that I had to make some major changes in the way I did things.
And I would have never had that realization if I didn’t go thru what I went though.
So today I have a challenge for you.
You see, you now have a decision to make. You can see the past and the pain as something bad that has happened. You can continue to focus on all of the pain that is associated with it. You can continue to come up with all of the reasons and justifications as to why (and how) you you got screwed.
You can see it as a GIFT. Something that God and the Universe had to make happen to wake you up so that you could learn your lesson(S). To see how strong and powerful you really are and to show you so that you could create the result you really want in your love life.
Now this might not be easy at first. There’s going to be a part of you that’s going to want to hold on to the past. Because when you hold on to the past it keeps you from putting yourself out there and having your heart broken again.
But I promise you that the more you embrace the idea that the pain of the past is a gift, the more you start to OWN it the easier it will be to move on and find the love you really want.
The choice is now yours. what are you going to choose?
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Hope this helps!