Can You Care Too Much?

Are you the type of woman who gives and gives and gives and when there is nothing more left to give you somehow find a way to give some more? But at the end of the day you wind up sad, frustrated and alone again because all of your giving was for naught.

If so, this video is for you because you will learn how to recognize when you are giving too much. You will also learn a quick strategy to recognize you are giving to the wrong guy and it’s time to walk away.

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Do you have a habit of giving too much in your relationships? Do you believe that a person can care too much?
I’d like to invite you share your thoughts, feedback and questions down below in he comments section of today’s post.

Have a great weekend!

Much Love,

Joe

Having a Hard Time Believing You’ll Find the Love You Want

The pursuit of love is often one of the most challenging and difficult parts of the human journey. And because of the constant disappointment, frustration and heartache most women get to the point where they feel like giving up.

But what if there was a way to make some slight changes which would greatly increase your chances of finding the love you desire?

In today’s video you will learn about the Reticular Activating System. The RAS is a specific part of the brain which, when programmed correctly, can make it much easier for you to find the love you want.

If you’re interested in learning how your Reticular Activating System can help you find the love you’re looking for I invite you to watch this video.

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After watching today’s vblog I invite you to take some Mirror Time and ask yourself what you have been focusing on…what’s wrong with the “boys” or what’s right with the MEN.

And after you take your MT I want you scroll down below to the comments section and  share your thoughts, feedback and questions.

Hope this helps!

Much Love,

Joe

Will You Grow Together or Grow Apart?

Normally I would start today’s blog with “Happy Monday!”

But if I were to say I was happy today it would be a lie. Natalie & I received some bad news over the weekend and because of this bad news the last few days have been a lil tough to get growingthrough.

And the reason I’m sharing this is because I want you to understand that no matter how strong your relationship is life is always going to throw sh*t at you.

But it is how you handle the sh*t, that ultimately determines whether you grow together or grow apart.

One of the biggest reasons many marriages fail is that couples start taking each other for granted. They stop doing the things that they did in the beginning of the relationship, and they stop communicating.

Sometimes they get so caught up in the daily grind and trying to survive in this thing called life that they forget to water and nourish their relationship.

You see a relationship is a lot like a plant. You need to water it, you need to nurture it. It needs sunlight and a fertile soil to survive and grow. And when BOTH partners put in the effort a relationship can survive even the harshest of conditions.

Like most couples, Natalie and I have had our share of sh*t thrown at us in the 13 years we’ve been married.

Two of our three boys were born premature and the first was so premature that we weren’t certain if he was going to make it.

We’ve had health challenges, financial challenges, family challenges and just about every “challenge” you can imagine.

And no matter how much each challenge sucked when we were gong thru it, we ultiamtely came out of it stronger as a couple.

Now I wish some of these challenges never happened but in a way I’m kind of grateful for them because I know that each challenge was a gift from God to help us grow as individuals and as a couple.

I’m sharing this with you today because I want you to understand that picking someone to share your life with is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. 

And when you get it right, when you choose a mate who lights up your life (in and out of the bedroom) the problems of life simply become speedbumps designed to help you grow and strengthen your love for each other.

My love for Natalie is so much stronger today than it was on that day when we got married. Who we are as individuals (and as a couple) is nowhere near who we were in the beginning of our marriage.

And that is my intention for you. Not to teach you how to “catch a guy”. Not to show you how to lie, manipulate or misrepresent yourself to trick a guy into being with you. But to pick a guy who will be by your side and hold your hand as you both grow old together so that when it comes time to make your transition you can do so with a smile on your face and peace in your heart.
What has been your experience in your love life? Do you tend to grow apart quickly or over a period of time? Did you have a marriage where you took each other for granted and didn’t realize it until it was too late? What will you do differently going forward so that you and your partner will grow together?

I invite you to go below and share your thoughts, comments and questions
Hope this helps!

Much Love,

Joe

How To Get a Guy To Ask You Out for a Second Date

Do you have a lot of first dates but very few second or third dates? Would you like to learn how to get a guy interested in you so that you’ll increase your chances of getting him to ask you out again?

If so, this vblog is for you because you will learn some real life, practical tips and strategies which will increase your attraction factor so that the guy you are on a first date with will want to ask you out again.

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Hope This Helps!

Much Love,

Joe

The Difference Between a Husband and a Life Partner

One of the biggest mistakes you may be making in your love life is that you’re looking for a husband instead of looking for a life partner?

What’s the difference?

Well, there is a HUGE difference and not understanding the difference will often cause you to give your heart to the wrong guy. And even though you’ll have a guy to share your life and bed with he’ll never be the guy you really want.

In this video you will learn the difference between a husband and a life partner and how to use this knowledge to help you find and attract the love you really want…and deserve!

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After watching the video I invite you to go below and share your thoughts and experience.

Have a great day!
Much Love,

Joe

 

Is Your List Too Big?

One of the biggest problems you’ll have in seeking advice on your love life is figuring out what is true and what isn’t.

One expert says to make a list and another says to sit back, be yourself and just let things happen naturally.

So who do you believe?

In this video you’ll learn why having a LIST is important but only if it is the right kind of list. There is a big difference between having a  LAUNDRY LIST and a CHECKLIST and not knowing the difference will tend to make your pursuit of love more complicated than it needs to be.

What do you think? Do you believe in having a list? Do you currently have one? if so, how long is it?  If not, Why don’t you have one?

Please post your comments, questions & feedback below. I want to hear from you!

Have a Great day!

Much Love,

Joe

 

How Long Should You Wait For A Guy To Call?

Have you ever met a guy given him your number and then waited by the phone for him to call?

If so, today’s vblog is for you..

Malikah, one of the members of the GPS for Love Community recently posted a question because she was confused about how much time a woman should give a guy when he takes her number and says he’s gonna call.

Malikah asked for my input and I not only address her question but I give her (and you) a simple suggestion that will help you quickly figure out if a guy really is interested in you or he’s just blowing smoke up your a**.

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What’s your take? has this ever happened to you? If so, what advice would you give Malikah?

Make sure you go below and post your comments, questions and feedback.

Much Love,

Joe

 

Why Guys Don’t Call WhenThey Say They Will

Have you ever been on date when everything was going great. The conversation was great. You both seemed to have so much in common and the night went by so quickly.

Then at the end of the night the guy looks you straight in the eye and says…”I’LL CALL YOU.” And then …nothing.

It seems like he fell off the face of the earth and you’re left trying to figure out what happened.

Well, in this video you will learn the real reasons why a guy doesn’t call when he says he will…

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What has been your experience? Do you tend to attract guys who don’t call when they say they will? Have you ever told a guy to give you a call when you knew you weren’t’ interested in seeing him again?

Make sure to go below and share your thoughts, questions and feedback. We want to hear from you!

Have a great day!

Much Love,

Joe

3 Things Which Drive Men Away

When it comes to relationships men and women are different creatures. So if you’re going to have a long term, happy and fulfilling relationship it is imperative that you understand the three most critical factors which will drive a man away.

In this video you will learn what those factors are and you will also learn how to use this information in such a way that a guy recognizes you are a woman that is worth committing to.

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After watching today’s vblog I suggest some Mirror Time to self reflect and take an honest evaluation to see if you have a habit of doing any one (or more) of these three danger signs.

And if you notice that you do any (or all) of them make sure you post your comments, questions or feedback below in the comments section. I’m here to help!

Have a great day!

Much Love,

Joe

Have a Hard Time Opening Up and Being Vulnerable?

Today I want to share  something that I went thru recently. And I gotta admit that it’s hard to open up and post this for the world to see, but I figure if it helps just one person in their journey to find love then it’ll be wellvulnerability worth it.

You see, I grew up in a very loving household. I had two wonderful parents and there was never a question of whether my parents loved me or not.

Both of my parents were second generation Italians who had parents who were born in Italy. And like their parents they learned to express love not by their words but by their actions.

We were a very loving family, the problem was we never verbally expressed it
In fact, anytime I tried to express love verbally as a child to my dad he used to say, “you show me love by your actions.”

And even though I had an amazing mother who would sacrifice and do anything to make my life easier and better, she never uttered the words, “I LOVE YOU!”

So needless to say, saying those same three words is something that doesn’t come naturally for me. And it’s one of the things I really admire about Natalie, expressing her love is something she does so easy and naturally

Now since I’m a seeker and I’m always trying to make my life (and relationships) better this is something that I had to confront and face. And let me tell you it’s a lot more difficult than it would appear to be.

Why?

Because it is so much easier for me to show my love by my actions than it is to say those three words.

After doing a lot of Mirror Time and working with one of my mentors I ultimately realized that the reason it was difficult for me to say the words “I love you” is because it leaves me completely vulnerable and open for rejection.

And that scares the crap out of me.

So after I realized the cause of my struggles I decided to take my mom out to lunch. And we had a conversation that scared the hell out of me. I decided that I wanted to understand why she never said the words “I LOVE YOU”.

I went not this lunch not to blame my mother or make her wrong but to understand her. Because, like I said earlier, there has never been a doubt in my mind as to whether my mother loved me or not.

At first we started with small talk and I could feel the anxiousness build up inside me as I brought up the subject. Part of me wanted to get in my car and get the hell out of there. But I knew that if I did, I would continue to carry around the burden of these unanswered questions.

So finally, I asked her, “Mom, I’m just curious, I have never doubted how much you love Jo-Ann (my sister) and I but why is it that you have a hard time verbally expressing your love?”

And at first she was shocked, caught completely off guard as if I was asking her to explain Einstein’s Theory of Relativity. But after a few minutes of me explaining what I was talking about, the conversation took a complete turn
And for the next 30 mins we had a beautiful conversation, one in which brought tears to both of our eyes.
{NOTE*** if you plan on having a vulnerable conversation with someone I recommend you do it in privacy, otherwise you’ll get people looking at you like we did!)

For the first time in 49 years I saw a side of my mother that I didn’t know existed. For years my mother was the strong one in our house. She was the glue that held it all together. Even when My dad was alive my mom was the risk taker and the go-getter.

In fact, she always used to say, “If it was up to your father we would have never moved out of the Bronx and we’d still be living in an apartment in a shitty neighborhood.”

You see my mom helped me to understand that her childhood wasn’t as happy as I thought it was. That the loving grandfather that I knew was so strict that she would have to sneak around and go behind his back so that she could be like all the other kids in the neighborhood.

And for the next hour my mother opened up in ways that made me see her not as my mom, but simply as another human being who had her own share of stories which shaped and impacted her life.

And when I left the restaurant that day, I gave her a hug and a kiss like I normally do & I said the three words…I LOVE YOU! And I could immediately feel her body tense up as she replied back, almost in a knee jerk response, “YOU TOO”.

And I wasn’t disappointed and hurt because I now understood that the reason my mom never expressed her love verbally was because saying it made her vulnerable too.

Opening up and being vulnerable is one of the hardest things for a human being to do. and no matter how strong a person may pretend to be, most people struggle with being vulnerable, because deep down most of us have experienced rejection and we’re afraid of facing that pain…again.

I had a couple of conversations with my mom after that lunch and then one day, as we were getting off the phone, my mother uttered those three words, the three words that teh lil boy in me had been longing to hear for almost 49 years.

Even though my brain had known how much my mother loved me and how she consistently proved it with her actions, Hearing her utter the three simple words…I LOVE YOU brought me peace to my heart because instead knowing in my head I was able to know it in my heart.

So, why am I sharing this with you?

Because if you’re like me, and most other human beings who are walking the planet you have a hard time opening up and being vulnerable, because ultimately you’re afraid of rejection and you’re afraid you won’t be loved.

So instead of opening up and being vulnerable. You stay quiet, you shut down and you suppress your thoughts and feelings.
I share this with you to inspire you. To help you see that no matter how difficult it may be, no matter how uncomfortable you may feel if you find the courage to speak your truth from your heart you will create the space for the other person to open up and express their vulnerability too.

Now before you start running around and sharing your heart with complete strangers please understand that is not what I am saying. Being vulnerable is a scary thing and opening up to the wrong person might actually work against you.

What I am suggesting is that you open up and share your heart with someone who who you can trust. Someone who has already earned the right for you to share your heart with them. Because when you share your heart with someone who has already earned your trust you ave a much greater chance of creating an amazing experience, one which will improve your relationship, just like it did for me and my mom.

Do you have a hard time opening up and being vulnerable? If so, Why? What step could you take in the next 24 hours to open up and be a ‘lil more vulnerable than you were today. Go below in the comments section and share your thoughts and experience on vulnerability

And if you have any questions, feedback or stories that you would like to make sure to post  them also.

Have a great day!

Much Love,
Joe