Ok, I’ve had enough. Unless you’ve been living under a rock or holed up in a compound in Islammabad, by now you have heard that Arnold Schwarzenegger has had an affair on his wife of 25 years, Maria Shriver.
For all I know there may have been reasons (other than the obvious) why Arnold decided to have an affiar with one of his employees.
What’s interesting about this is he not only had an affair with this woman but he fathered a child with her and kept it secret for 14 years!
In this day and age how anyone can keep a secret for 14 minutes amazes me. So how did Arnold Schwarzeneger, one of the most popular actors on the planet and the Governor of California, keep this secret for 14 years?But whther he kept it quiet for 14 years or 14 minutes doens’t make a differnce.
I’m not here to judge Arnold and his choices. he has to look himself in the mirror at the end of the day. But I’m sick and tired of all the “boys” like Arnold, who think with their penises, giving a bad name to the men who remain loyal and treat their women with the love & respect they deserve.
It’s the “boys” like Arnold who are selfish and only think about themselves. I have 3 little boys at home ages 7, 5 and 2 and it’s not uncommon for them to want what they want when they want it. It’s even more common for them to try and figure out ways to get what they want when mommy or daddy says “no”.
I expect this from them because their little boys. It’s my job as their dad to teach them how to live and treat others and how their choices and decisons effect others.
It’s ok for my sons to act this way becuase they’re still young. They don’t yet understand how life works.
But it’s not ok for adults to act this way. But can we blame them? We live in a society where “instant gratification” is all around us. We have a pill for every problem in life and these pills often tout instant and fast relief.
Instead of getting to the cause of our problems and fixing them we just pop a pill to make the symptoms go away.
We have informercials on all 3,ooo channels constantly promising us instant and miraculous results (although the results shown are not typical). And don’t forget about the “fast food” companies selling us “industrial sized, super value meals for just twenty-nine cents extra.
Our lives have all become about the “now”. If we don’t care about the effects these things have on ourselves how can we care about how our choices and decisons will affect others (including our spouses.)
Look, I’m a guy who has eyes and a penis just like other guys. Do I appreciate a beautiful woman? Yes! When a good looking woman crosses my path do I check her out? Yes! Do I notice a certain part of her anatomy? Yes! (i’m a boobs guy!). But that’s where it stops.
Do I act on any of these impulses? No! Do you want to know why? Because the relationship I have with my wife isn’t worth throwing away.
The differnence between men & boys is that men have integrity and honor their commitments. If Arnold wanted to fool around then he should have told Maria and he should have divorced her.
That’s what a man would do. There are lots of good men out there who love and honor their women who actually enjoy being in a committed relationship. My wife is my best friend, my life partner and my lover.
She is everyhting I want and need so why would I throw it a way. You see another differnce between a man is that a man sees the big picture and makes decisons and choices in accordance with it.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of “boys” out there and our society tends to give them the headlines and spotlight. But remember there are lots of “men” out there as well and when it comes to finding the “man” of your dreams you simply need to remember … you only need “ONE”.