Would you like to know exactly “how” to meet that special guy you’ve been looking for? Want to know what to do and where to go to find him? Are you looking for the answer to one of the most troubling and puzzling questions in your life?
Well, I’m gonna answer it for you. I’m gonna tell you exactly “how” to make your dreams come true. But before I do I have got some good news and bad news for you. The bad news is that there is not “one” way to meet a good guy. So if you’re looking for “the one way” I’m afraid to tell you it does not exist.
But that’s also the good news. Because if there isn’t “one way” that means there are many ways. It’s a great paradox.
If you look at those individuals who are in a relationship you will see that they all met in different ways. Some met at a party, some at work. Some were introduced to each other thru a mutual friend, while others met randomly, almost by accident. It’s as if there is some greater force in the universe which somehow caused these two individuals to be in the same place at the same time.
If you are spending your time and energy trying to figure out “How” to meet the man of your dreams I have one word for you…”STOP!”. It is not your job to figure out “How”. Because quite frankly you’re not smart enough. Now before you start firing off e-mails where you misinterpret my words into me questioning your intelligence, I want you to really digest what I am saying.
I am not saying anything about your intelligence at all. What I am saying is that you can only see and interpret things based on your own perceptions and beliefs. If you think there are no good places to meet quality men guess what evidence your mind will produce?
If however you understand that there is a bigger intelligence in the world which is a lot smarter than you, you will realize that you don’t have to know the how.
You will understand that there are lots of things you can do and there are lots of places to go. It simply becomes a matter of finding the ones that feel good and work for you. Going to another speed dating or singles event begrudgingly because you feel have no other options is probably not going to produce the results you are looking for.
That is why online dating is great for some and a nightmare for others. It is all about your attitude going in. Look, if online dating doesn’t feel right and is not a good experience for you…don’t do it. There are plenty of other ways to meet men.
Finding the right place to meet the type of men you are looking for is a lot like cardiovascular exercise. There is no “one way”. Some individuals love to run, while others like to bike. Some like to take a kickboxing class while others prefer Zumba. Ask a person who runs to take a Zumba class and they’d rather sit at home and do nothing.
And herein is the part that gets overlooked and unappreciated. There are LOTs of ways to do almost everything in life. What works for Mary may not work for you.(Note*** Be careful of taking advice from your girlfriends who tell you what you “should” do, especially if they’re still single)
The key is being able to find the way that works for you. And there are 2 ways of recognizing when you are on the right path…1) its enjoyable and feels good and 2) It starts producing the results you desire.
If you are taking action and putting yourself out there and you are having fun while meeting the types of guys you are looking for then you are on the right path for you.
If not, than you are trying to make a square peg fit into a round hole. If you are spending your time and energy going to places and single events where you are not having fun or you are not getting the results you desire, than you simply are on the wrong path.
It is not your job to figure out the “how”. There are too many possibilities. But I can tell you this. When you get clear on what the result is you are trying to create and you start taking action towards it you will quickly find out if you are on the right path.
Your job is to do two things, 1) get clear on the result you desire and 2) Take one step towards it.
If you do just these two things you will see by how you’re feeling and the results you are getting if you should stay on that path or pick another one. Once you find that you are enjoying the process and experiencing some of the results you desire stay on that path because it will only be a matter of time before that special guy shows up in your life.
So instead of wasting mental energy trying to figure out how to get to the “destination” start focusing on making the “journey” more enjoyable and I guarantee you that if you keep putting yourself out there it will only be a matter of time til you get to where you want to go.
As I look back on my own journey I know realize there is no way I would have ever been able to figure out “how “ I was going to meet my wife. And in fact , if you would have told me how we were going to meet (we met online) I would have laughed in your face.
But like I said, there is a bigger, more intelligent force in the universe and if you do your part it will do its job!