Want to Know “HOW” to Meet the Man of Your Dreams?

Would you like to know exactly “how” to meet that special guy you’ve been looking for? Want to know what to do and where to go to find him? Are you looking for the answer to one of the most troubling and puzzling questions in your life?

Well, I’m gonna answer it for you. I’m gonna tell you exactly “how” to make your dreams come true. But before I do I have got some good news and bad news for you.  The bad news is that there is not “one” way to meet a good guy. So if you’re looking for “the one way” I’m afraid to tell you it does not exist.

But that’s also the good news. Because if  there isn’t “one way” that means there are many ways. It’s a great paradox.

If you look at those individuals who are in a relationship you will  see that they all met in different ways. Some met at a party, some at work. Some were introduced to each other thru a mutual friend, while others met randomly, almost by accident. It’s as if there is some greater force in the universe which somehow caused these two individuals to be in the same place at the same time.

If you are spending your time and energy trying to figure out “How” to meet the man of your dreams I have one word for you…”STOP!”.  It is not your job to figure out “How”. Because quite frankly you’re not smart enough. Now before you start firing off e-mails where you misinterpret my words into me questioning your intelligence, I want you to really digest what I am saying.

I am not saying anything about your intelligence at all. What I am saying is that you can only see and interpret things based on your own perceptions and beliefs. If you think there are no good places to meet quality men guess what evidence your mind will produce?

If however you understand that there is a bigger intelligence in the world which is a lot smarter than you, you will realize that you don’t have to know the how.

You will understand that there are lots of things you can do and there are lots of places to go. It simply becomes a matter of finding the ones that feel good and work for you.  Going to another speed dating or singles event begrudgingly because you feel have no other options is probably not going to produce the results you are looking for.

That is why online dating is great for some and a nightmare for others. It is all about your attitude going in. Look, if online dating doesn’t feel right and is not a good experience for you…don’t do it. There are plenty of other ways to meet men.

Finding the right place to meet the type of men you are looking for is a lot like cardiovascular exercise. There is no “one way”.  Some individuals love to run, while others like to bike. Some like to take a kickboxing class while others prefer Zumba. Ask a person who runs to take a Zumba class and they’d rather sit at home and do nothing.

And herein is the part that gets overlooked and unappreciated. There are LOTs of ways to do almost everything in life. What works for Mary may not work for you.(Note*** Be careful of taking advice from your girlfriends who tell you what you “should” do, especially if they’re still single)

The key is being able to find the way that works for you.  And there are 2 ways of recognizing when you are on the right path…1) its enjoyable and  feels good and 2) It starts producing the results you desire.

If you are taking action and putting yourself out there and you are having fun while meeting the types of guys you are looking for then you are on the right path for you.

If not, than you are trying to make a square peg fit into a round hole. If you are spending your time and energy going to places and single events where you are not having fun or you are not getting the results you desire, than you simply are on the wrong path.

It is not your job to figure out the “how”. There are too many possibilities. But I can tell you this. When you get clear on what the result is you are trying to create and you start taking action towards it you will quickly find out if you are on the right path.

Your job is to do two things, 1) get clear on the result you desire and 2) Take one step towards it.

If you do just these two things you will see by how you’re feeling and the results you are getting if you should stay on that path or pick another one.  Once you find that you are enjoying the process and experiencing some of the results you desire stay on that path because it will only be a matter of time before that special guy shows up in your life.

So instead of wasting mental energy trying to figure out how to get to the “destination” start focusing on making the “journey” more enjoyable and I guarantee you that if you keep putting yourself out there it will only be a matter of time til you get to where you want to go.

As I look back on my own journey I know realize there is no way I would have ever been able to figure out “how “ I was going to meet my wife. And in fact , if you would have told me how we were going to meet (we met online) I would have laughed in your face.

But like I said, there is a bigger, more intelligent force in the universe and if you do your part it will do its job!

Have Fun!

Much Love,

Joe

6 thoughts on “Want to Know “HOW” to Meet the Man of Your Dreams?

  1. JoyThe best way to meet a man online is
    1) join an online dating site (I recommend the sites where u have to pay)
    2) write a great profile (the perfect profile paints a picture of who you are and makes a guy feel like he must meet you). A good picture of you & a great headline are the 2 most important factors in grabbing a guy’s attention
    3) be crystal clear on what you are looking for (and what you’re not looking for)
    4) only pursue guys who clearly demonstrate that they have what you are looking for
    5) be proactive- don’t be afraid to make the initial contact–the best way is to read a guy’s profile and send him an e-mail about something you have in common or something that interests yourealize online dating is simply another avenue to meet men. Why I recommend it over the other avenues is b/c you can meet men without ever leaving your house and it is much easier to screen men if you keep your eyes and ears open. I recommend you wait at least a week from the initial contact before going out with a guy. This gives you the chance to e-mail, text & talk on the phone a few times and during that week you will often discover whether the guy is even worth going out with.Hope this helps!Good Luck!
    Much Love,
    Joe

  2. Hi Marie,I am sorry to say that there is no magic place to meet a good quality man. If there was everyone would go there. It sounds like there is some things going on underneath the surface that you might want to look at.if u’ve been on 3 online dating sites for 2 years and have only met 3 men that suggest something is off. It may be the sites you weren’t very good (rule #1 avoid the free sites). Secondly you may not understand the “rules of engagement”. Based on my experience 95% of people who use online dating are doing it wrong. Just b/c you join a gym and go to the gym doesn’t mean you are going to get the results you say you want. There is a difference between doing things and doing things “right”.I understand that u live in a small town and that the pickins may be slim….but remember you only need one. And I promise you that there are some good guys (in your town or nearby) who are saying how difficult it is to meet a good woman in this area as well.if you know what kind of guy you are looking for ask yourself “where would he go?” Make a list of places where u’r ideal man would shop, exercise, work, eat, drink, watch sports, congregate, etc…and pick the one where u could genuinely be yourself and go there as well. If you don’t like sports don’t go to a sports bar just so u can get a guy. You won’t enjoy the process and it will only frustrate you more.I may be wrong and be totally off base but it seems to me that there is something else going on beneath the surface which may be contributing to our lack of results. It may be that you’re too picky, it may be you’re an educated women who lives in blue collar town or it may be you are unconsciously preventing yourself from succeeding b/c on some level there is some kind of fear going on.I believe that every problem has a solution and if we are continuously seeing some kind of result (or lack of result) in our lives than there is something we are doing, knowingly or unknowingly, which is contributing to the undesired result.Thoughts?Much Love,
    joe

  3. I am doing what you mentioned above. I am very clear about who and what I am looking for and am going to dances, parties and classes for fun and in hopes of meeting a great guy. I have been doing this for over a year with minimal results. Tried the online thing on 3 sites but only met 3 men in 2 years. Most were too far away or emailed back and forth and nothing happened. I live in a small town so my choices are limited. I had a long distance relationship which was wonderful when we were together, but we didn’t see enough of each other ~too much distance and expense to see each other. Where else can I find good men? We don’t have speed dating, meetups, singles groups (except for seniors ) dog parks, rodeos, or rec centers where one might normally meet men. Help

  4. Thank you Joe for your advice. Actually, I have seen the “process” you describe (“get clear on the result you desire and take one step towards it”) work wonderfully in several areas of my life and I could achieve incredible goals that seemed apparently impossible. I want to apply it now to the less successful area of my life so far and succeed in meeting the right match for me and building a strong love relationship .

  5. Great advice and that is what is starting to work for me. I have a date on Sunday with a guy I met on the dating site POF. We are going to play trivia, every day this past week he has emailed me a song lyric for me to guess the title and artist. I am so excited about playing trivia with him. He keeps challenging me and he is enjoying my responses. I have a date next Friday with another guy from this same site and I am excited about meeting him as well. I changed my attitude and that is why I believe I am finally getting somewhere in dating. I am having fun with my friends when I go out and online. Last week I met plenty of men had wonderful conversations no dates but I had a fantastic time. I am going out with a new fun attitude and I hope when I am out men will be attracted to how fun and will want to learn how fabulous I am. Thanks for the advice.

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