Are Relationships A Lot of Work?


Well, I’m happy to report that Natalie’s surgery went really well, but unfortunately she’s had a tough time recovering.

She was in severe pain and the anesthesia really kicked her butt, so we decided it was best for her to stay in the hospital.

It was the right decision because she felt so much better the next day.

The adverse effects of the anesthesia had worn off and the pain had diminished enough for her to be able to come home.

She’s now resting comfortably and it’s just a matter of her recovering and getting back to full strength.

Over the next few weeks I’ve got to step up and put on my Mr. Mom hat.

I’ll be making the kids breakfast, taking them to and from school and taking over a lot of Natalie’s responsibilities until she is back up to speed. (Yes, I’m even doing the laundry!)

It’s a lot more work for me but that’s OK.

One of the many lesson I learned from my mother is that a good spouse raises their game when their partner needs them to.

What I am going to have to deal with over the next few weeks is nothing compared to what my mother went through when my dad was battling cancer.
My mom was one of my biggest role models because she taught me how to deal with the adversity that life throws at you. She taught me that being a good partner means you sometimes have to put yourself and your needs on the back burner so that you can be there for your significant other.
It might sound like a simple concept to comprehend, but it can often be a very hard concept to enact.

When Natalie’s pain began to get bad in the fall it started to effect our relationship, (especially in the bedroom) and if we didn’t have the commitment and communication that we have there could have been big problems.

In fact, one morning Natalie said to me, “It is easy to see why so many marriages fail.”

And I totally got what she was saying. Because if you don’t have the right person by your side when life throws stuff at you, and you don’t have the ability to love and support each other during those tough times, it will be just a matter of time before things begin to unravel.

There are a lot of myths about relationships and one of those myths is that relationships are a lot of work. And they can be…when you are in a relationship with the wrong person!

But when you are in a relationship with the right person, you don’t have to work on your relationship.

Yes, you’ll have to work together to navigate the speed bumps, challenges and Divine Storms that life throws your way, but you won’t have to work on your relationship.

In fact, that’s one of the ways you’ll know you are in a good relationship.

If you’re in a relationship with a partner that you know you can count on, that you know will be there for you and that you know will raise his game when he needs to, you’ll find that you won’t have to work on your relationship.

When you find one of those guys and you have one of those relationship that just happens almost effortlessly, you’ll see how easy a relationship can really be.

And it’s OK if right now it’s hard for you to believe.

There was a time in my life when I wouldn’t have believed it either, simply because I hadn’t experienced it yet…just like you!

Hope this helps!

Have a Blessed day!

Much Love,


P.S. Do you believe relationships are a lot of work? If so, scroll down to the comments section and let us know why.


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4 thoughts on “Are Relationships A Lot of Work?

  1. Rose Engel says:

    I absolutely love your emails everyday, even if I don’t think they pertain to my life! I’m a widow and on the dating scene at 70 yrs. old, difficult age
    at best. Haven’t found one like you as I realize your life with such a wonderful partner can be.
    Thank you for your email today and your step up to taking care of your wife and her responsibilities . I wish her the best in her recuperation and getting better everyday.

  2. laurie says:

    I dated a man for 10 months. I had my partners’ back, but because of his constant travel and some of his health issues, I didn’t feel that it was reciprocated. I ended the relationship abruptly. I guess I felt that I would never be as fully supported by him as I was to him. Is that so wrong?
    He is a good man, just maybe not the right time. I don’t know. It’s been 7 months, and I have my doubts sometimes. My brain asks ‘why’, but my heart is slightly lighter. *sigh*

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