How To Get A Guy To Respect You


Have you ever dated a guy who disrespected you?  If so, you’re not alone.

In fact, there is not a day that goes by where I don’t hear from a member of the GPS for Love community who is upset about a guy who “Did__________”

The majority of the time the reason why the woman is upset is because the guy did something to respect her.

Well, I’ve got a newsflash for you….There are some guys roaming the earth that have no respect women, even you.

Now I know how upsetting that may be. But it really shouldn’t be.

At this time in your life it shouldn’t take an epiphany to realize that there are some guys (ok, lots of em) who don’t respect women. This isn’t bad news. It’s good news. You need to use this information to your advantage.

You see, a guy can only continue to disrespect you if you allow him to. If you continue to rationalize, justify and make excuses for a guy’s disrespectful behavior, you are teaching him that it is OK to disrespect you. You are showing him that as long as he comes back and gives you some bullsh*t excuse for his behavior, you will continue to allow him to get away with being disrespectful.

That doesn’t fly! And if you continue to allow him to do so it’s not on him, it’s on you!

You want a guy to respect you? Respect yourself first!

Show a guy that you will no longer tolerate his selfish and disrespectful behavior.

You’re not going to change a disrespectful guy, and the truth is, he’ll probably just move on and find another “girl” who will allow him to get away with his disrespectful behavior.

But he’ll be her problem, not yours!

When you show a guy that you will not tolerate or accept being disrespected, you are sending out a clear message to the Universe. You are letting the Universe know that you are not willing to settle for crumbs.

The Energy that you will be emitting will be much more in alignment with the relationship you really want, and when that happens, it is much easier for the Universe to send you the whole “cake.”

Now this might be oversimplifying things a bit, but that’s just because when it comes to love, we humans tend to make things a lil more complicated than they need to be.

I believe God is sitting up in the Heavens pulling HIS/HER hair out saying…”NO, you re making it so much harder than it needs to be. This isn’t what I had in mind when I created things.”

When we are born we are given free will. A Guy is given a choice. He can decide to be a “boy” and disrespect women or he can decide to be a “man” and do the opposite.

But you also have a choice. You can choose to allow a guy to disrespect you or you can walk away the first time he does so.

I hope you pick option #2! Because that is what God really had in mind for you! 🙂

 Hope this helps!
Much Love,
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9 thoughts on “How To Get A Guy To Respect You

  1. ada says:

    Nobody wrote this illustration better: “I believe God is sitting up in the Heavens pulling HIS/HER hair out saying…”NO, you re making it so much harder than it needs to be. This isn’t what I had in mind when I created things.”
    One of my favorite articles you have written.

  2. Lorrie mann says:

    My emotions and feelings for my last boyfriend caused me to stay in a relationship much too long. I kept thinking that eventually he would see my value and make me a priority. Allowing him to give me crumbs only showed him he could get away with giving me very litttle. It was very hard to walk away. But eventually I did. And then, guess what happened? I met a wonderful guy who adores me. I’m so much happier! Don’t settle for crumbs

    • Thanks for sharing Lorrie. I hope the other members of our GPS for Love community read your words and learn form your experience!

  3. Bella says:

    Ok Joe. Here is one story that you probably heard or read before, and I just wish I had found you sooner.
    Girl moves to a new city, leaving by herself for the first time. Goes on an online dating site and meet a Guy who is obviously “physically” interested. Girl goes on a date. They chat afterwards a couple of times but then Guy disappears. Girl goes to another online dating site and here is the same boy. Out of ego Girl texts him. They speak again. And every time there is a chance for them to meet,
    something happens and guy disappears. And every time he came back with a different text excuse girl responds back. Until finally in one of his long absences a good friend shows her a web site. Day by the day She became the woman she wants to be and when the guy text again. She just said Bye bye Boy. The best part, the universe keep sending her emails and texts showing her that she is definitely on the right path. Coincidence I don’t think so. Did she think every man act the same way or that he was the only one? No. Now she follows her gut instincts and stays true to herself.
    Thanks Joe for being part of the journey

    • Love it Gaby!

      That guy was either a “boy” or a scammer!.
      Be glad you didn’t get more involved. It would have turned out bad for you either way!

  4. Crystal says:

    He’s so right about this. I was married 34 years to a man who took a promotion for a 3 yr job that turned into 6 yrs because he transferred out of state and left me and his eight grade son, so our son wouldn’t have to leave his school. After 3 yrs, he started acting like a bachelor. I saw it grow worse every time he visited us. Then after 6 yrs , he moved back to us taking a $400,000 cut in pay. He disrespected me constantly and I let him because I thought he was going thru a mid life crisis. He wasn’t. He lied to me, stayed out late, took bogus ‘work’ related trips out of town. The red flags are flying everywhere! Finally, after the humiliation of having the woman approach me, that he moved back for, smugly tell how he didn’t love me anymore, I stopped letting him disrespect me and we divorced. People change. More so if you let them. Don’t go thru yrs of being disrespected! It will only lower your self esteem and you’ll feel and be worse off. Get out while you still have the desire to be loved like you want to be loved. Signed, HAPPILY divorced and have renewed respect for myself.

    • Thanks for sharing Crystal. I wish you well on your journey.

      You deserve better and I am 100% confident that there is a good man out there that will love you the way you deserve to be loved!

  5. Kristine Green says:

    After living in a 26 year marriage where I tolerated his bad behavior it has screwed me up. Yes it is partly my fault not what He which was wrong did but that I encouraged it by staying in the marriage and not speaking up. So I’m transitioning into the new me I still am encountering bumps in the road. But the good new is the bumps are less bumpy.

    • Kristine, smart people learn form their mistakes and use their experience to make the future better!

      What can you learn from your past experience with your ex-husband and how can you use it as you go forward on your journey?

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