The other day I was being interviewed for an upcoming summit that I’ll be participating in. The woman who was interviewing me asked me about my relationship history, and when she found out that I walked away from my engagement just twenty-eight days before walking down the aisle she said, “Wow Joe, I admire you. That took a lot of courage.“
Her response caught me off guard and initially I didn’t know what to say. In fact, when you hear the interview when it’s released in a few weeks, you will hear me pause.
You see, I didn’t see walking away as being courageous. I saw it as being smart. I knew that If I didn’t walk away, I was headed for an unhappy marriage and a miserable life.
Up until that point in time I was willing to drink the Kool-Aid. I was willing to ignore ALL of the red flags which were flying in my face and I was willing to make all of the excuses as to why I should stay.
The truth is I wasn’t courageous, I was a coward. The only reason I stayed in that relationship as long as I did was because I was afraid.
I was afraid I was never going to find someone else to share my life with. I was afraid that I was never going to have the son my heart craved to replace the void in my heart which was created when my dad passed away when I was 15 years old.
I look back now and see how my fear(s) caused me to invest in a relationship I should have never even started.
So, why am I sharing this with you? Because I want you to understand that a relationship created out of fear is like building a house on a bed of sand.
It will look good from a distance and initially it will give you the experience you were hoping for, but sooner or later it’s all gonna come crumbling down.
The only reason I walked away from that engagement was because I was afraid of being trapped in an unhappy marriage. It wasn’t courage that drove me to walk away, it was fear.
I’m just glad that I was smart enough to finally listen to my gut, which had been telling me to walk away for a long time.
So, please take my advice to heart.
If you find yourself in a relationship where you’re giving, giving and giving and getting very little,and you’re gut is telling you to walk away….LISTEN.
You don’t have to settle for crumbs when you can have the whole cake.
Do you have a similar experience? Did you invest in a relationship (or marriage) where you unhappy? If so, how long did you stay? What was it that finally made you realize that had to walk away?
What words of advice would you give to the other members of the GPS for Love community who are pursuing relationships where they are not receiving the love, honor and respect they really want?
I’d love it if you would share your thoughts with us in the comments below.
Have a Blessed Day!