When I first created GPS for Love back in 2011 it was my intention to make it different than a lot of the other “dating” sites out there.
I didn’t want it to be another one of those sites designed to help you get a guy. And I didn’t want it to be another one of those hug a tree, sing Kumbaya, put up a vision board and the man of your dreams will magically appear at your door step, Law of Attraction sites that were so popular at the time.
It was (and still is) my intention to give you a tell it to you straight, no B.S., website designed to help you find the right guy, so that you can have the type of relationship you really want…and deserve.
I also wanted to give you a glimpse behind what it takes to keep a relationship going and how to make it grow stronger in the face of the adversity that you WILL encounter in your life.
You see, life is undefeated!
There is not one person (or one couple) who has walked this planet that hasn’t had their share of adversity.
Now granted, some individuals encounter bucket-loads of adversity and others appear to go through life with very little adversity.
It makes no difference how old you are, where you live or what your religious/spiritual beliefs are. Somewhere along the line life is going to kick your butt and you’re going to feel like the Universe is conspiring against you.
I get it and honestly, today I feel like that.
After four weeks of playing Mr. Mom and doing everything I can to keep some kind of normalcy as Natalie recovers from her surgery, I finally feel like I hit the wall.
I woke up this morning feeling like I got hit by a tractor trailer and it took every ounce of energy I had just to get myself out of bed. I had no energy and I was physically and emotionally drained.
Now I gotta be honest, if this would have happened to me ten years ago it would have sent me into a major depression.
Why? Because back then I didn’t have the skills and tools to recognize what was really happening.
But today things are different! What’s the difference?
Well, for starters I no longer think the Universe is conspiring against me. I now understand that everything that is happening in my life is happening for a reason.
As a result of taking some Mirror Time this morning I realized that I had spent so much energy on everyone else that I had forgotten to take care of myself. I got away from doing the things that are necessary to recharge my battery, and as a result I am left feeling drained and depleted.
A few years ago this would have been bad, real bad. But now I understand that what I am going through is a gift. It is a wake up call from the Universe reminding me to get back to taking care of myself.
I’m not talking about being a hedonist where I neglect my responsibilities. I’m talking about recharging my batteries in a healthy way so that I have enough energy to give to others, especially my wife and kids.
When you give to others and you don’t take the time to physically, emotionally and spiritually give to yourself first, it leads you to the point of being drained and depleted…just like I am today.
But the good news is we have a choice. We always have a choice.
We can sit around and blame everyone and everything for the way we feel, or we can face the adversity head on, take some Mirror Time and listen to the guidance we are receiving from the Universe.
If you do that you will understand that those moments in your life when you feel like you are getting your ass kicked aren’t happening TO you, they are happening FOR you. They’re divinely designed to wake you up so that you can make the changes you need to make.