It’s been an interesting few weeks here in Joe-ville.
Summer is over (in my mind), the boys are back to school and Natalie and I are working to kick things back into full swing.
You see, summer is the time where we wind it down as much as we could so we can take advantage of the beautiful weather and the boys being home.
After losing my dad at the age of 15 I learned just how precious our time here is on this earth and I want to make sure that we make the most of life because you never know when your number may be punched.
I’m a big believer in trying to milk the most out of life so that when that time comes you go with a smile on your face and not one regret!
I’m not going to be like all the other experts and gurus out there who tell you that if you “just do this” all your prayers will be answered and you’ll have everything you desire and you’ll never have any problems in your life ever again.
To be honest, I despise those people!
Why? Because they’re not being honest and they’re not being real.
It’s one of the reasons I started GPS for Love a few years ago. I wanted you to know the truth, not my truth, but your truth. Because if you’re like most of us human beings your perception of the truth and how things really are is usually a little different.
Now your perception is your reality but that doesn’t mean that it is THE reality. And living your life as if your perception is your reality is just one of the things that causes you to struggle….especially in your love life!
If you are going to have a real life, successful relationship that is going to withstand the test of time and the speedbumps that life throws at you, it is imperative that you understand this one thing…your ability to love someone else is directly related to your ability to love yourself first!
I see so many women (and men) believing that if they just had someone to share their life with they would be happy. And they get that “someone” and everything is great…in the beginning. But then the sunshine and rainbows disappear and the woman soon realizes that her prince charming was not the MAN she thought he was.
If it does I want you to know that there is a simple solution.
Love yourself first!
When you love yourself first you don’t need a man to make you happy, you need a man to make you happier!
Why? Because when you love yourself first you will not settle for less than you deserve.
I know it is cliche, but it’s THE TRUTH!
Don’t believe me? That’s OK.
I don’t want you to believe me. I want you to discover the TRUTH on your own. I simply want to help guide you to your TRUTH so you can stop wasting your time on “boys” and toilet bowl relationships (the ones that make you feel like crap).
So, here’s a lil test to help you see how much you love yourself.
I want you to look back over your last three relationships and I want you to look at those relationships as if you were an observer.
What do you see?
What do those relationships say about your self love?
Do they say you have clear and concise boundaries and you’re willing to walk away when a guy isn’t consistently loving you the way you need to be loved?
Or does it say, that you settle and give your heart (and body) to the wrong guys?
You see, when you love yourself first you know when it’s time to walk away and you do so. No matter how tough and scary it is, you muster up the courage to walk away and you never look back.
But when you don’t love yourself first, you stay and you continue to invest in the wrong guy..
And then one of two things happen:
- You stay in that relationships and you settle
- You get to the point where you’re in so much emotional pain that you realize that you have to leave
I’m sharing this with you today for no other reason than to help you discover your TRUTH so that you can make the necessary changes which will help you find the love you really want…and deserve.
Hope it helps!
Have a Blessed Day!
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