Do you have a history of making poor choices in your love life?


It’s Joe. Happy Monday! I wish I could say the week is starting off on a great note but as I’m writing this this morning my head feels like ti’s in a vice and I’ve got all kinds of colored creatures coming out of my nose.

Oh well, just another speed bump on the road to life.

Speaking of the road to life today I want to talk about something that you may be doing which is working against you in your life, specifically your love life. Wanna know what it is?

It’s your….CHOICES!

You see if you say you want a great guy and an awesome relationship you have to stop trying to build a relationship with the “BOYS!”

Do You Choose to Make These Excuses?
Now I know what you’re gonna tell me….

the chemistry with the boys is AMAZING!”

“It’s the best sex you’ve ever had”

“They’re so much more fun!”

“He wasn’t like that in the beginning”

” I know that if I just love him I can help him overcome the pain of his past”

If I can just help him see that I am different than his previous wife (or wives), he’ll overcome how he got screwed and open up to me”

And this is just the conscious stuff that you’re aware of. I haven’t even mentioned all of the unconscious stuff which makes you pick these guys in the first place

Thing such as

you being afraid you’ll never find anyone else or anyone better

—your fear of being alone and never finding the love you really want (So you continue to choose guys where you settle)

–being afraid of getting hurt again so you continue to focus on your pain instead of learning how to get over it and learning how to make sure you pick the RIGHT guy for the RIGHT reasons
—defining your self worth by how “HOT” the guy is and how great the chemistry is

Being so hungry for that special someone to share your life with LOVE because you didn’t get the love, acceptance & support you were really looking for as a child

Now before we go further let me say one thing. If any of these statements resonate with you simply realize this….”there ain’t nothing wrong with you!”

You’re Not Broken, You Don’t need to be Fixed…You’re HUMAN!
You’re simply a human being on a journey. You’re not broken, you don’t need to be fixed and you don’t need years of therapy to overcome your past.

You simply need to learn how to do things better AND you need to understand WHY you make the poor choices in the first place.

And that is where the real problem lies. Because you don’t know how to do that AND there is a part of you that is Afraid of what it is gong to take to learn how to do that.

You see, no matter how strange it may sound there is a part of you that is “Wired” to keep this insanity going.

Just like a boat that is programmed to go south.You are programmed to do what you have been doing.

How do I know?

Because if you look at your relationship history you will see a pattern.

What is Your Pattern?
Maybe that pattern is

1) You pick guys who are emotionally unavailable

2) You pick guys who are a great package on the outside but who are an empty on the inside

3) You have sex and jump into relationships before you even know who a guy really is

4) You do everything to make a guy happy and make a relationship work…often at the expense of your won happiness and well-being

5) You ignore (or make excuses) for the red flags because you don’t want to see em or accept em

You see anytime you have a pattern in your life it is the Universe’s way of trying to get your attention. So instead of facing the TRUTH, dealing with it and eliminating it you continue to keep doing what you have been doing

And then you read blogs, watch videos, search the internet and maybe even buy some books or other programs hoping you’ll find the answers you’re looking for

But there’s a problem with all of this. You’re focusing on the SYMPTOM of your problem instead of the CAUSE.

You see you can keep trying this “pattern” but you’ll never get to the REAL cause of your problems….The REASONS why you continue to struggle in your love life. The reasons why you continue to make choice and decisions which don’t lead to the love you really want…and deserve!

Are You Asking the Right Questions?
Tony Robbins, One of my mentors once told me…”if you want better answers you must ask better questions”

Instead of asking “How can I meet a good man?” ask “Why do I keep attracting the boys(or being attracted to the boys)?”

Instead of asking “where do I go to meet a guy?” ask “Why am I only not finding/attracting quality men?”

Instead of asking “Why am I still single?” ask ” “What do I still need to learn to create the relationship I really want?”

Instead of asking “Why did he do this to me?” ask “What role did I play in allowing this to happen?”

You see better questions lead to better answers because the answers you’re looking for are at a much deeper level.

But the problem is your so close to your own stuff and you’re so emotionally involved you can’t see it. And sometimes when there’s so much emotional juice involved there’s a part of you that doesn’t want to see it.

It’s what I call the Blind Spots

And that is where the real problem lies.

I know because for almost three years I couldn’t see my blind spot. Well, let me be honest. I knew it was there but part of me didn’t want to see it. But the truth is the blind spots were there from the very beginning. I just didn’t want to see them. SO ignored them (and made excuses for them) until I got to the point where I was in so much emotional pain that I decided to do some things differently,

I decided to face the things I was running from. So why am I telling you this today?

Because I understand where you are. I get what it is like to pour your heart and soul into a relationship. I get what is like to live your life “hoping” that one day things will all work out. And I get what it is like to think that you have no control over the process. That it is ALL in God’s hands.

But it’s not. It’s in your hands too! You have the ability to create the relationship you really want. To create the relationship that you know you deserve.

No matter what your past has been like. No matter how you’ve been screwed over. No matter how much your self esteem has taken a hit, you can turn it all around

And I understand that right now you’re saying to yourself “HOW?”

How to I overcome the past and how do I learn overcome my blind spots so I can have the relationship I really want?

And that’s a much better question!

The Importance of the Right Mentor
And the answer is by finding someone who knows how to recognize the blind spots. By finding someone who knows how to overcome the exact challenges you are going thru and by finding someone who is currently in a successful relationship and who knows what it takes to make it happen.
[NOTE: you wouldn't take financial advice from a homeless guy so why would you take advice on your love life from someone who doesn't have a successful track record.]
You see the Universe is there to guide you. And like a giant GPS system it will keep guiding you no matter how many wrong turns you make.

But why keep making more wrong turns than you need to?

The journey is and can be much easier when you learn to recognize that the GPS system is there to guide and support you. (Do you think you’re reading this by coincidence?).

But the Universe allows you to have free will. it allows you to make your own choices.It will guide you to go right but if you choose to go left because the chemistry is amazing,
you’re afraid you’ll never find the love you really want or you’re afraid of being alone. it’s not on the Universe…it’s on YOU!

So the first step to creating a rockin’ relationship is to realize that you always have a choice. And the result of that choice will take you one step closer to your destination
or one step further away.

You have a choice. You can continue to ignore the blind spots in your love life or you can learn to recognize them and overcome them.

The CHOICE is yours!!!!

And if you are at the point of journey where you’re tired of struggling and you’re afraid you won’t be able to do it on your own I’d love to help you.

In fact, I have created a specific program that is designed to help you identify and eliminate your blind spots. And the best part of this program is it doesn’t’ take years of therapy to “fix” you.

In two days I’m going to be releasing 5 new spots in the GPS for Love Mentoring program.

And because your a member of the GPS for Love community I wanted to give you first dibs.
go here for info==>

I want you to know that you’re not alone on this journey and you don’t have to continue to struggle and figure it out on your own.
I’d love the opportunity to work with you and show you how to make it happen. In way that would be much easier and much quicker than continuing to do it on your own

If you’re serious about creating the results you really want in your love life and you’re tired of wasting your time and energy on things which don’t lead to the RESULTS you’re
looking for check it this program and let the Universal GPS show you if it’s what you need.

Much Love,


If you have any specific questions about the GPS for Love Mentoring program please feel free to send them to me at

The First Step To Finding Love That Lasts

Do you have a history of having your heart broken. Do you tend to give your all but always wind up frustrated, sad and ALONE?

Do you think that if you have sex, do everything you can to make him happy that he will fall in love and do the same for you?

If so, you MUST watch this video because you will learn the first step you must take to find the love you really want

Watch Here…

After watching today’s vblog I invite you to share any questions, comments or feedback you may have.
The GPS for Love Community is a safe place to give and receive guidance in navigating the road to love
Much Love,

Do You Give Guys Too Many Chances?

As I preparing for tonight’s “TRUTH About Men, Dating & Relationships tele-class  I was reflecting back on my own love life. I started thinking second chancesback to the time I was with my ex-fiance. And I started thinking about how unhappy I was.

But no matter how unhappy I was couldn’t leave and even if I did she would ay or do something which would make me go back.

And it was perplexing because before I met my ex I never took sh*t from anyone. But for some reason in this relationship I took piles of it and I mean PILES OF IT!

I couldn’t understand why?

Why did I give this woman so many chances?

It took some serious Mirror Time to help see what the “hook” was for me.

I learned that there was a part of me that was afraid I’d never get married and have the son I so desperately desired. There was a HUGE hole in my heart after my dad died from cancer when I was 15.

Up until I met my “EX” I was more focused on my chiropractic career. I was too focused on getting everything in place so that I would be ready to settle down.

But once my career was established I knew I was ready to get serious about getting married and having a family.

But the problem was I was more interested in getting married and having a son than I was in making sure I picked the right person.

To be quite honest, it was clear that my “ex” wasn’t the right person for me almost from the very beginning. In fact, if I had to get brutally honest the red flags were there from the very beginning.

But I chose to ignore them.

The reason I’m sharing this with you today is because I want you to take some Mirror Time and to ask yourself why you give guys too many chances?

Why do you continue to pursue a guy who says he’s going to call you but doesn’t?

Why do you make excuses for a guy when he isn’t being the MAN you want (and need)?

Why do you choose to stay with a guy who does not give you the love honor and respect you desire…and deserve?

Please know I ask this not to judge you but to shine the light on where you may be going wrong.

It takes a strong person to be willing to look themselves in the mirror and to take responsibility for the role they’re playing.

Taking responsibility doesn’t mean blaming yourself or beating yourself up. It simply means seeing what choices and decisions you have made that have contributed to where you are.

So today I invite you to take some Mirror Time. I’d like you to step out of your life as if you were an observer and ask yourself where you’re not taking responsibility.

Do you give guys too many chances? Do you tolerate too much from a guy? are you so desperate for love (or a family) that you’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen (like I did)?

After you take some Mirror Time I invite you to see what you can learn from it and what you must do differently.

Don’t forget post any questions, comments or feedback below.

Have an awesome day!

Much Love,


Like, Love or Respect

When it comes to creating a happy and fulfilling relationship which is most important to you? Like, Love or Respect

Yes, they’re all important but one of them is the foundation that ultimately leads to the other two..

When you watch this video you will not only learn which one is MOST important, but you will learn WHY it is MOST important.

Watch here…

After watching the video I invite you to post any questions, comments or feedback below.


Much Love,


3 Signs a Guy is Emotionally Constipated

Ever date a guy who said one thing and did another? How about the guy who was only interested in you for what is in your pants?

These guys are examples of guys who are Emotionally Constipated.

if you’re looking for a long term relationship, you must learn how to identify and recognize these guys before you get involved with them.

By watching this video you will not only learn what Emotional Constipation is but you will learn how to recognize the 3 signs which let you know that a guy is emotionally unavailable constipated and a guy you should avoid (or get rid of)

Watch here…

After watching today’s vblog make sure t take some Mirror Time to notice which signs you had missed, ignored or made excuses for in the past.

and then take the time to share what you have learned below with the other members of the GPS for Love community so that you can help someone else from making the same mistake


Much Love,


3 Signs You’re Giving Away Your POWER To Guys

Are you frustrated in your love life because you’re finding guys who don’t follow through? Are you afraid to tell a guy how you really feel because you’re afraid he won’t like you or want to be with you?

Do you think that men have all the POWER in a relationship?

If so, this video is for you because you will learn how to recognize the 3 signs which indicate you’re giving your POWER away to guys and what you could do to get it back.

Watch here…

Make sure you watch the video til the end because there’s a Mirror Time Exercise which will help you recognize where you’re giving away your POWER.


Much Love,


Is a ‘Lil Love Better Than None At All?

The need to love and be loved is so wired in ll of us that it often causes us to make choices and decisions in our love lives which often work against us.

In this video you will learn the 2 driving fears which cause you to pursue guys and relationships which will never lead to the type of relationship you really desire…and deserve.

Watch Here…


Much Love,


If You’re Frustrated, Confused and Tired of Struggling – READ THIS NOW

Today is a very special day. But before I share with you why it’s so special I want to shed a lil light on my past.

For most of my life I’ve been a seeker. I’ve been always bandicam 2014-09-10 10-46-16-553been someone who has been looking to find my truth and I’ve always been someone who has searched for answers to make sense of my world

Answers to questions such as ….

  • Why do others smoke and live to be 90 yet my dad died of cancer after he quit smoking for 10 years?
  • Why am I a good kid but the other kids ridicule and make fun of me?
  • Why am I working really hard yet I’m still struggling?
  • If God is all loving and wants the best for us, why is there so much pain and suffering in the world?
  • Why am I good guy and such a great catch (told to me by everyone who knew me), yet I struggle to find someone special to share my life with, yet some a**hole who treats women like dirt, has women throwing their self at him?

You get the point…right?

Because you probably have a lot of unanswered questions of your own.

Well, I wish I could say I have found ALL of the answers I’ve been looking for. But that would be a lie.

The truth is I’ve found A LOT of the answers, but there are still some things I can’t explain, such as why my NY METS continue to suck year after year! LOL!

So why am I sharing this?

Because if you’re like me. You’re a seeker. You’re searching for the answers and you’re looking for the knowledge, skills and tools to help you create the results you want (and know you deserve) in your life, especially your love life.

And because you’re a seeker you take action.

YOU….read blogs (like this one), read books, watch videos, go to therapy and invest in programs and products, but at the end of the day you’re frustrated because others who are doing the same things are getting the results they want, yet you continue to struggle.

And because your self esteem and self worth isn’t the greatest you beat yourself up and blame yourself.

So, why am I sharing this with you?

Because I want you to know that you are not alone on this journey. It’s a journey that we all go through, every single one of us.

And it is learning how to overcome the obstacles and challenges which life throws at us that ultimately determines whether we WIN in life or we WHINE!

Now I wish I could say that I’ve got it all figured out and I’m cruising down easy street. But you & I know that’s a bunch of BS.

Yes, there are parts of my life where I’m rockin’ it but there are also areas of my life where I suck and I still struggle (such as putting on 25 lbs over the summer!)

And that is why I keep searching. Because as long as I’m alive I’m going to look for things (and people) to help me make my life the best friggin’ life that it can be. Because when it is time for me to make my transformation in life I want to make sure that I go with a smile on my face and absolutely no regrets.

Last night Natalie & I were in NYC for the book launch of one of my mentors. His name is Mastin Kipp and he runs a site called “The Daily Love” (check it out at

I’ve known Mastin for over two years of my life and I can tell you that he has been a very instrumental part of my own personal journey.

The thing I love the most about Mastin is his willingness to bare his soul and use his journey to inspire others to achieve great things in their lives.

When I first met Mastin I had dreams, big ones. But those dreams were really wishes. And the reason they were wishes was because a part of me didn’t really think I could achieve those dreams.

And there was a big part of me that was actually afraid of trying to achieve those dreams because I knew that if I was I was going to have to get out of my comfort zone and make some some major changes in my life. Changes which scared the crap out of me (such as walking away from my chiropractic practice and baring my soul to the world over the internet to help others find love).

I owe a lot to Mastin because he helped me see that the life I’ve always dreamed of is not only possible but it’s doable. And for the first time in my life I actually believe it.
So, today I wanted to invite you to check out Mastin’s new book. It’s called Daily Love…Growing Into Grace.

Check it out==>

It’s his story about he he went from a couch surfing, drug addicted ex-record executive in Hollywood to being labeled “an up-and-coming thought leader of the next generation of spiritual thinkers” by Oprah Winfrey after she interviewed him on her Super Soul Sunday show.

Now let me tell you, I’ve read a TON of books over the last 30 plus years of my journey and this book is one of the most real, raw, genuine and inspiring books I have read.

If the book resonates with you and you decide to buy it this week Mastin is throwing in some really cool bonuses.

And because I really want to support my friend (and you) I am going to throw in a BONUS of my own.

If you purchase Mastins’ book by the end of the week (Sat 9/13 at 12PM EDT) I will send you my GPS for Love 5 week webinar series for ….FREE!!!!

The GPS for Love Webinar Series normally sells for $97.00 but it’s yours FREE when you order Mastin’s book.

All you have to do is send us an e-mail at with your confirmation/receipt and we will send you the info on how to access your bonus (to check out the GPS for Love Webinar Series click here)

One of the joys for me is being able to contribute to others by sharing the things (and people) who have helped me in my journey.

Mastin has helped me tremendously & I hope by passing along his book I am able to do the same for you.


Much Love,

P.S. If Mastin’s book resonates with you, why not get a copy for a family member or friend. I picked up a case last night to share w/my friends and loved ones

P.P.S   Don’t forget, in order to get the $97 GPS for Love Webinar series bonus you must purchase your book by midnight on Saturday. Click here to order

Here are some pics from last night..

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First Date Tips – How To Quickly Identify a Guy isn’t Right for You

Having trouble screening the men you date?  Do you tend to jump into relationships too quickly only to discover every time that the guy you chose is a jerk?

Are you so hungry for love that you’ll take any guy who pays attention to you (or tells you what you want to hear)?

If you answered “YES” to any of these three questions I invite you to check out today’s video because you will learn how to identify three subtle clues which tell you that the first date you’re on should be the last.

Watch here…

After watching today’s vblog In invite you to post any questions you may have about dating down below in the comments section

Hope this helps!

Much Love,


When To Say “I LOVE YOU” To A Man

I recently received an e-mail from one of the members of our GPS for Love community who was dating a guy she had fallen in love with.

She wanted to say the three magic words that we all want to here…”I LOVE YOU”

But she wasn’t sure if she should wait for him to say it first.

In this video you’ll learn when the time is “right” to tell a guy that you love him. And you’ll also learn when the time isn’t right.

Watch here…

Hope this helps!

Much Love,