Today I want to address something that I see happen way too much among the GPs for Love community.
Now at first what I may be saying may seem cold and I know that there will be part of you that says, “yeah Joe I agree, but if I do this I”ll never find a man”
And I understand. But that is simply your fear talking which has been based on your past experience with the boys.
I promise you that if you listen closely and follow this advice it will make dating so much easier for you.
One of the biggest mistakes you’re making in your love life is that you give guys way too many chances. You give guys all the power. You let them dictate when to call, when to ask you out and when to get in your pants.
Yes, in the context of a relationship a man takes the lead. It is the man’s job to step up and show you that he ia s guy who knows how to respect and treat a woman.
But that does not mean you sit back and allow him to dictate things and you have no say.
So when a guy says he’s going to call and he doesn’t, tell him….”look, I’m looking for a guy that I can trust and when you say you’re going to call and you don’t, you’re showing me that you’re not a man of your word”
That’s it and if he does it again, KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB!
“But Joe, that’s too harsh!”
Let me ask you this. Of all the guys you dated, of all the guys who didn’t keep their agreements with you, how many of them were able to give you the relationship you really wanted?
You see when a guy says he’s going to do something and he doesn’t do it and you allow him to get away with you you are letting him know that his boyish behavior is ok and that you will allow it.
I’m a big believer in having clear boundaries as to how you want to be treated by your partner.
And if the person you’re involved with screws up, simply let him know that you have more respect fro yourself than to allow a guy to treat you that way.
“But Joe won’t he think I’m a b*tch?”.
No. Not if he’s a MAN!
Because a man is smart enough to know when he drops the ball. And a man has no problem seeing when his behavior inadvertently hurts the woman he cares about.
and if that guy realizes that his behavior may cause him to lose an amazing women like you, he’ll do his best to make sure he doesn’t screw up again.
You know why?
Because a man has integrity.
So if you want a great relationship with a man my advice is to stop giving the boys too many chances.
The heck with three strikes and you’re out. I suggest you give him two.
Strike One: You lovingly let him know that he dropped the ball.
Strike Two: He’s OUT!
Now if he’s a man he’ll learn from his mistake. But if he’s a boy he’ll repeat it.
So why continue to give him an extra strike when you’re only going to get to the same conclusion?
Do you have a history of giving guys too many chances? If so, Why?
How many chances do you think a guy should;d get?
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Hope this helps!