“Chivalry is not dead. It’s just that most women started settling for a lot less than they deserve!” -Anonymous
I was brought up by a very strict Italian father who taught me how to treat others, especially women.
Almost everything I learned about how to treat women I learned from my father’s example.
Now I’m not gonna sugar coat things and pretend I’ve been a perfect gentleman and I never did some crappy or irresponsible things to some of the women in my life. I did!
And I take 100% responsibility for my “boyish” actions!
But I learned early in life that if I did something shitty to a woman (or anyone else), the Universe had an interesting way of paying me back for my transgressions.
One of the things I hear all the time from women, is that there are no good men out there (or they’re all taken or gay). And it breaks my heart. Because the truth is there are a lot of good men out there who do know how to treat women.
And many of these guys are just as frustrated as you are because…
- some women won’t give em the time of day b/c they don’t look like Brad Pitt
- some women prefer the excitement, challenge and unpredictability of the boys more than the safety, security and inner character of a MAN
- they’re not given a fair shot to show what a great MAN they are because they don’t pass the instant chemistry test that so many women hold them to
It’s sad, really sad because there was a time in my life where I was one of those “good guys.”
So why am I sharing this with you?
Because I want to know if you really believe Chivalry is dead.
Now I will agree that there are tons of guys who could care less about being chivalrous to a woman. These are the guys that we have come to refer to as the “boys.” These are the guys who are selfish, emotionally unavailable and who lack integrity.
These are the guys that I recommend you stay far away from if you are looking to have a happy, fulfilling, long lasting relationship.
But there are also a lot of good, solid, and caring MEN out there who do know how to treat women.
But unfortunately many of these guys will never get the chance for a woman to know what great partners they can be because they’re never really given a fair shot.
Now I’m not asking you to date a troll. I’m not saying you should pursue a relationship with a guy that repulses you.
Because to have a successful relationship you must be attracted to a man you are going to be intimate with.
I’m simply asking you to take some Mirror Time and look at your thoughts about men.
Because the funny thing about guys is that the ones who keep showing up in your life are the ones you are unconsciously programmed to attract!
Instead of focusing on how scarce the good guys are, instead of focusing on how selfish and self absorbed the “boys” are and how the only thing they care about is getting laid, I want you to start focusing on finding the one good man who you can give you the love, honor and respect you deserve!
Because once you find that one guy the number of “boys” you’ve come across no longer matters!
What are your thoughts on men and chivalry?
Scroll down down and let us know. And if you have any other questions about men and chivalry make sure to post em as well. I read ’em all!
Hope this helps!
P.S. I know these blogs might sometimes come across as some unrealistic bullsh*t. But here is an e-mail I received the other day from a woman who made a slight change to the way she looked at guys….
About 3 months ago I learned this lesson you spoke of today and changed my beliefs to this:
- Men love women who are happy and content.
- Men are lots of fun to be with when you relax in their company and let them bring out their masculinity
Since then, I have been getting so many dates with men who are awesome. Now instead of going home after a date and crying in my Haagen Dazs lol I go home and look forward to another date.
At first I thought this type of advice was all woo woo bullsh*t but it really is life changing once you get it!
Listen to Joe ladies…. this truly works.