Today I was supposed to be on a road trip up to Boston to see a baseball game at Fenway Park with my father-in-law and my boys.
My father-in-law is having a very hard time handling my mother-in-laws dementia and we thought it would be great to get him out of the house for a few days.
While we were away Natalie was going to take care of her mother but at the last minute Natalie developed a sever intestinal virus and we had to postpone the trip.
So why am I sharing this with you?
Because as soon as I saw Natalie wasn’t feeling well I knew what had to be done.
You see contrary to all the relationship experts life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows…even if you marry your soul mate.
There are often times where you have to put your desires and needs on the back burner so that you can be there for your spouse.
Is it always easy? Hell, no!
But doing the right thing often isn’t easy.
If you are going to have a successful relationship, one that is going to stand the test of time it is imperative that you pick a partner who CONSISTENTLY shows you that he can and will be there for you…not just in the good times when it is convenient. But in the bad times, especially when things are tough.
I’m gonna let you in on a lil secret, something that most men know, but very few will admit in public.
What makes a MAN feel like a MAN is when he knows he is taking care of his woman (and his family).
And if you are going to pick a guy to spend the rest of your life with (and have a family with) it is imperative that you choose someone who CONSISTENTLY shows you that he is going to be there for you and have your back, not just in the beginning of the relationship but ALWAYS!!!!
You see many guys put on a great show in the beginning. They pretend to be these magnanimous, loving creatures but then a short while later, they show their true colors.
And if you’re like a lot of women. You make excuses for these “boys”. You focus on how great they are, how great the chemistry is and how loving and kind he was when you first met and you keep hoping that he’s going to change and turn back into the guy you feel in love with.
You waste your precious time only to realize that you’ve been duped. You’ve given your heart to a “boy” who was pretending to be a man.
And you erroneously think if you just love him some more, give him some space and say your prayers that he’s gonna be the MAN you thought he was.
Ladies, I’m here to tell you that if a guy doesn’t CONSISTENTLY SHOW YOU FROM THE BEGINNING that he’s got his back and you can trust him to be there for you CONSISTENTLY there is only one thing you must do…..DUMP HIS ASS!!!!
Now I know it may not be what you want to hear and you’re going to justify it by saying there’s an exception for every rule.
But realize this. You can run across a highway without looking and you may be the exception which makes it across, but for everyone who makes it across….thousands get smashed!
Did today’s blog resonate with you? Do you tend to pick “boys” who initially pretend to be “MEN” only to find out the hard way that you’ve been misled? Are you currently in a relationship where a guy is showing you that he doesn’t CONSISTENTLY have your back but you’re afraid to let him go and move on.
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Hope this helps!