Normally I would start today’s blog with “Happy Monday!”
But if I were to say I was happy today it would be a lie. Natalie & I received some bad news over the weekend and because of this bad news the last few days have been a lil tough to get through.
And the reason I’m sharing this is because I want you to understand that no matter how strong your relationship is life is always going to throw sh*t at you.
But it is how you handle the sh*t, that ultimately determines whether you grow together or grow apart.
One of the biggest reasons many marriages fail is that couples start taking each other for granted. They stop doing the things that they did in the beginning of the relationship, and they stop communicating.
Sometimes they get so caught up in the daily grind and trying to survive in this thing called life that they forget to water and nourish their relationship.
You see a relationship is a lot like a plant. You need to water it, you need to nurture it. It needs sunlight and a fertile soil to survive and grow. And when BOTH partners put in the effort a relationship can survive even the harshest of conditions.
Like most couples, Natalie and I have had our share of sh*t thrown at us in the 13 years we’ve been married.
Two of our three boys were born premature and the first was so premature that we weren’t certain if he was going to make it.
We’ve had health challenges, financial challenges, family challenges and just about every “challenge” you can imagine.
And no matter how much each challenge sucked when we were gong thru it, we ultiamtely came out of it stronger as a couple.
Now I wish some of these challenges never happened but in a way I’m kind of grateful for them because I know that each challenge was a gift from God to help us grow as individuals and as a couple.
I’m sharing this with you today because I want you to understand that picking someone to share your life with is one of the most important decisions you will ever make.
And when you get it right, when you choose a mate who lights up your life (in and out of the bedroom) the problems of life simply become speedbumps designed to help you grow and strengthen your love for each other.
My love for Natalie is so much stronger today than it was on that day when we got married. Who we are as individuals (and as a couple) is nowhere near who we were in the beginning of our marriage.
And that is my intention for you. Not to teach you how to “catch a guy”. Not to show you how to lie, manipulate or misrepresent yourself to trick a guy into being with you. But to pick a guy who will be by your side and hold your hand as you both grow old together so that when it comes time to make your transition you can do so with a smile on your face and peace in your heart.
What has been your experience in your love life? Do you tend to grow apart quickly or over a period of time? Did you have a marriage where you took each other for granted and didn’t realize it until it was too late? What will you do differently going forward so that you and your partner will grow together?
I invite you to go below and share your thoughts, comments and questions
Hope this helps!