As I was sitting down to write today blog I looked down on my computer screen and noticed that today was Dec. 8th.
December 8th might not be a significant day to you but it is the anniversary of the worst day of my life. It was on this day that day my dad lost his battle to cancer. For four years I watched my dad suffer and go though operating after operation, and rounds of radiation
and chemotherapy only to die a painful death.
So why am I sharing this with you? Because there was a time, way back in the past where this day would elicit such emotional pain for me that I would do anything and everything I could to avoid it.
In fact, the pain got so bad a few months after my dad died that I tried to take my own life. I was 15 and the pain of seeing my dad waste away in front of my 15 year old eyes was so bad that I didn’t want to go on because I couldn’t imagine things getting any better.
And it’s ironic that now, many years later I am now grateful for that day.
Now I know you’re thinking. “Joe, How can you be grateful for your dad’s death?”.
And before we go further let me clear things up. I am not grateful for his death. It was the worst thing I have had to experience in my life. My dad was my world, he was everything to me. We did everything together and when he died there was a void the size of the Grand Canyon left in my heart.
I am not grateful for his death but I am grateful for what his death taught me. The reason I am grateful TODAY for his passing is because it caused my life to go into a totally different direction.
A lot of who I am today: the way I think, the choices and decisions I make (and don’t make) and the person I try to be is all a result of the experience of going through my dad’s death.
I know it’s hard to believe (especially if you’re going though a painful time of your own right now), but sometimes your greatest pains happen to you because the Universe is making changes so that we grow and take a different paths in your life.
A good friend of mine, Mastic Kipp, creator of The Daily Love blog, calls these times “Divine Storms”.
But there’s a problem with these Divine Storms. We don’t like em! And the reason we don’t like em is b/c they”re painful.
But once you realize that the turbulence and pain caused by the Divine Storms are divinely created to help you get to a better place or experience in your life it becomes a lot easier to ride them out.
Over the previous three weeks Natalie and I have been through A LOT in our personal lives. In fact, yesterday was one of those days where I was going “WTF..did we do something to piss off the gods?”
But after throwing a pity party for myself I snapped back to reality and realized that we were in the middle of a Divine Storm. I now realize that there’s something going on beneath the surface, the hand of the BIG GUY IN THE SKY is at play. And although I may not understand exactly what is going on now I am extremely confident that the reason(s) will reveal themselves in due time.
So today If you’re reading this and going through some sh*t I want you to ask yourself …”What if this wasn’t happening TO me? What if this is actually happening FOR me and my growth? What could the possible lesson be?
And after you answer that question I invite you to share what you have learned below in the comments section with the other members of the GPS for Love Community because I guarantee you that there is someone else going through the same stuff and who will be helped by you sharing..
If you know someone who is going through a Divine Storm of their own and who may benefit for today”s blog do them a favor and forward this to them. It may be the ray of sunshine they need.
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