Today I’d like to share something that happened to me this morning that immediately put me in a bad place.
As I was getting ready to start my day & I was gong thru my pre-flight boarding instructions (which is the term I use for the rituals I go thru to prepare for my day) I found out that someone had made a fraudulent copy of my debit card and was making charges at BJ’s, a wholesale membership club., which ironically, I don’t even have a membership for.
So imagine my surprise when I found out that the fraudulent card was used to purchase hundreds of dollars of merchandise… with my money.
Needless to say it wasn’t the best way to start off the day and it wasn’t in my plans. The boys had finished school yesterday & Natalie & I had planned a special day to kick off their summer vacation.
Instead of heading out for a day of fun I had to spend the morning on the phone trying to rectify and clean up the mess that was caused by the thieves
Unfortunately I had been thru this ten years ago & I knew what to do.
I know that everything will work out and eventually I will be reimbursed for the money that was debited from my account.
But until that happens there’s a lot of BS and crap that I have to go thru until it’s resolved.
And what initially set me off was that I knew I didn’t do anything to deserve it.
Kind of like you right?
Kind of like you right?
You may not be struggling with a stolen debit card. Instead your anger and frustration may be something else.
maybe it’s another guy who blew you off? or is it an “ex” who screwed you over? or how about the frustration of dating and having to deal with the “boys”
And because you know you’re a good person and none of it was according to your plan there’s a part of you that is having a hard time letting go.
Now I must admit that years ago an event like this may have ruined my day, my week and would’ve made me not want to trust others even more. What I ultimately learned is that the only person I hurt by focusing on I was screwed over…is me.
But I’ve since learned to look at this stuff as simply another speed bump on the road to life. And more importantly I have learned not to take it personally
Instead of getting pissed and focusing on how I got screwed I simply choose to see it for what it is…nothing more and nothing less.
I believe in the Law of Karma. I believe what comes around goes around.
I”ve learned that you can’t do stuff like this without experiencing the repercussions.
So instead of giving this person the POWER to ruin my day (my week or my life) I decide to let it go and take my POWER back.
You see, no one has the right to steal your sunshine without your permission.And no matter what a person says or does you get to decide how you want to handle it.
If you continue to focus on how you’ve been betrayed, lied to or screwed over you give your POWER away and make the other person responsible for your happiness.
And that’s not OK!!!!
The only person who gets to dictate your happiness is…YOU!
So, today I invite you to take some Mirror Time. Take a good look at whatever you’re’ holding on to. Look at the energy you are giving away and see if it’s working for you or against you.
And then ask yourself…”What good is holding on to this doing me? “In what way is it helping me in being happy and having the life/relationship I really want?”
And when you’re done make sure you post your observations, questions or comments below on today’s blog (I’ve already posted mine)
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Have an awesome day!
If you know someone who is having a hard time getting over something I invite you to forward this e-mail and share it with them. it may be just what they need.