It’s Joe. Happy Monday! I wish I could say the week is starting off on a great note but as I’m writing this this morning my head feels like ti’s in a vice and I’ve got all kinds of colored creatures coming out of my nose.
Oh well, just another speed bump on the road to life.
Speaking of the road to life today I want to talk about something that you may be doing which is working against you in your life, specifically your love life. Wanna know what it is?
You see if you say you want a great guy and an awesome relationship you have to stop trying to build a relationship with the “BOYS!”
Do You Choose to Make These Excuses?
Now I know what you’re gonna tell me….
“the chemistry with the boys is AMAZING!”
“It’s the best sex you’ve ever had”
“They’re so much more fun!”
“He wasn’t like that in the beginning”
” I know that if I just love him I can help him overcome the pain of his past”
“If I can just help him see that I am different than his previous wife (or wives), he’ll overcome how he got screwed and open up to me”
And this is just the conscious stuff that you’re aware of. I haven’t even mentioned all of the unconscious stuff which makes you pick these guys in the first place
Thing such as
–you being afraid you’ll never find anyone else or anyone better
—your fear of being alone and never finding the love you really want (So you continue to choose guys where you settle)
–being afraid of getting hurt again so you continue to focus on your pain instead of learning how to get over it and learning how to make sure you pick the RIGHT guy for the RIGHT reasons
—defining your self worth by how “HOT” the guy is and how great the chemistry is
—Being so hungry for that special someone to share your life with LOVE because you didn’t get the love, acceptance & support you were really looking for as a child
Now before we go further let me say one thing. If any of these statements resonate with you simply realize this….”there ain’t nothing wrong with you!”
You’re Not Broken, You Don’t need to be Fixed…You’re HUMAN!
You’re simply a human being on a journey. You’re not broken, you don’t need to be fixed and you don’t need years of therapy to overcome your past.
You simply need to learn how to do things better AND you need to understand WHY you make the poor choices in the first place.
And that is where the real problem lies. Because you don’t know how to do that AND there is a part of you that is Afraid of what it is gong to take to learn how to do that.
You see, no matter how strange it may sound there is a part of you that is “Wired” to keep this insanity going.
Just like a boat that is programmed to go south.You are programmed to do what you have been doing.
How do I know?
Because if you look at your relationship history you will see a pattern.
What is Your Pattern?
Maybe that pattern is
1) You pick guys who are emotionally unavailable
2) You pick guys who are a great package on the outside but who are an empty on the inside
3) You have sex and jump into relationships before you even know who a guy really is
4) You do everything to make a guy happy and make a relationship work…often at the expense of your won happiness and well-being
5) You ignore (or make excuses) for the red flags because you don’t want to see em or accept em
You see anytime you have a pattern in your life it is the Universe’s way of trying to get your attention. So instead of facing the TRUTH, dealing with it and eliminating it you continue to keep doing what you have been doing
And then you read blogs, watch videos, search the internet and maybe even buy some books or other programs hoping you’ll find the answers you’re looking for
But there’s a problem with all of this. You’re focusing on the SYMPTOM of your problem instead of the CAUSE.
You see you can keep trying this “pattern” but you’ll never get to the REAL cause of your problems….The REASONS why you continue to struggle in your love life. The reasons why you continue to make choice and decisions which don’t lead to the love you really want…and deserve!
Are You Asking the Right Questions?
Tony Robbins, One of my mentors once told me…”if you want better answers you must ask better questions”
Instead of asking “How can I meet a good man?” ask “Why do I keep attracting the boys(or being attracted to the boys)?”
Instead of asking “where do I go to meet a guy?” ask “Why am I only not finding/attracting quality men?”
Instead of asking “Why am I still single?” ask ” “What do I still need to learn to create the relationship I really want?”
Instead of asking “Why did he do this to me?” ask “What role did I play in allowing this to happen?”
You see better questions lead to better answers because the answers you’re looking for are at a much deeper level.
But the problem is your so close to your own stuff and you’re so emotionally involved you can’t see it. And sometimes when there’s so much emotional juice involved there’s a part of you that doesn’t want to see it.
It’s what I call the Blind Spots
And that is where the real problem lies.
I know because for almost three years I couldn’t see my blind spot. Well, let me be honest. I knew it was there but part of me didn’t want to see it. But the truth is the blind spots were there from the very beginning. I just didn’t want to see them. SO ignored them (and made excuses for them) until I got to the point where I was in so much emotional pain that I decided to do some things differently,
I decided to face the things I was running from. So why am I telling you this today?
Because I understand where you are. I get what it is like to pour your heart and soul into a relationship. I get what is like to live your life “hoping” that one day things will all work out. And I get what it is like to think that you have no control over the process. That it is ALL in God’s hands.
But it’s not. It’s in your hands too! You have the ability to create the relationship you really want. To create the relationship that you know you deserve.
No matter what your past has been like. No matter how you’ve been screwed over. No matter how much your self esteem has taken a hit, you can turn it all around
And I understand that right now you’re saying to yourself “HOW?”
How to I overcome the past and how do I learn overcome my blind spots so I can have the relationship I really want?
And that’s a much better question!
The Importance of the Right Mentor
And the answer is by finding someone who knows how to recognize the blind spots. By finding someone who knows how to overcome the exact challenges you are going thru and by finding someone who is currently in a successful relationship and who knows what it takes to make it happen.
[NOTE: you wouldn't take financial advice from a homeless guy so why would you take advice on your love life from someone who doesn't have a successful track record.]
You see the Universe is there to guide you. And like a giant GPS system it will keep guiding you no matter how many wrong turns you make.
But why keep making more wrong turns than you need to?
The journey is and can be much easier when you learn to recognize that the GPS system is there to guide and support you. (Do you think you’re reading this by coincidence?).
But the Universe allows you to have free will. it allows you to make your own choices.It will guide you to go right but if you choose to go left because the chemistry is amazing,
you’re afraid you’ll never find the love you really want or you’re afraid of being alone. it’s not on the Universe…it’s on YOU!
So the first step to creating a rockin’ relationship is to realize that you always have a choice. And the result of that choice will take you one step closer to your destination
or one step further away.
You have a choice. You can continue to ignore the blind spots in your love life or you can learn to recognize them and overcome them.
The CHOICE is yours!!!!
And if you are at the point of journey where you’re tired of struggling and you’re afraid you won’t be able to do it on your own I’d love to help you.
In fact, I have created a specific program that is designed to help you identify and eliminate your blind spots. And the best part of this program is it doesn’t’ take years of therapy to “fix” you.
In two days I’m going to be releasing 5 new spots in the GPS for Love Mentoring program.
And because your a member of the GPS for Love community I wanted to give you first dibs.
go here for info==> http://gpsforlove.com/gpsmentoring/
I want you to know that you’re not alone on this journey and you don’t have to continue to struggle and figure it out on your own.
I’d love the opportunity to work with you and show you how to make it happen. In way that would be much easier and much quicker than continuing to do it on your own
If you’re serious about creating the results you really want in your love life and you’re tired of wasting your time and energy on things which don’t lead to the RESULTS you’re
looking for check it this program and let the Universal GPS show you if it’s what you need.